"Meditating on
the Lord by Walter Beuttler -
(One evening some years ago
when I first began teaching at Green Lane) I was fast asleep in my bed – when
somebody spoke aloud, and said, Brother Beuttler. I knew it was the Lord that had awakened
me, but I did not know what to do. Well now, let’s see here what King David
had to say about this? Psalm
63:6-7 When I remember thee upon my bed, and
meditate on thee
in the night watches, because thou hast been my
help, therefore in the shadow of thy wings will I rejoice.
In the night watches: When I remember
thee upon my bed. Contemplating the Lord. Meditating on Him. Look now at
what he says: Because thou hast been my help.
Reviewing for an instant, what God has done
for us. Reviewing His great works on
our behalf. David meditated on the
Lord in the night watches.
The activity here that David speaks of is meditation. You
know as well as I do that we’re living in a very -- in the age of electronics.
People these days are losing the art of meditation. And this is a
universal thing, especially in the western world. Somehow people don’t seem to
like to think anymore. That’s true. People (Especially church people) want to
have their thoughts thought by others. (Note here that Beuttler spoke these
words before first mention of Discipleship, Shepherdship, or a believer or a
fellowship ever needing spiritual coverings was made. The here irony of this
is Bob Mumford was one of Walter H. Beuttler’s most promising students.)
People like others to do their thinking for them. You find that throughout the
world, especially in the west. People today are losing the art of meditation,
and contemplation.
We have a television in our house. Now you are lucky in
one respect. Unless I’m mistaken, you get television only from one channel
here. Is that correct? Well, in the States in our metropolitan centers, you
have a dozen or more stations from which you can select anything. You can get
almost any kind of program you want. If you don’t like one, you turn to the
other. If you don’t like that, you turn again. Like New York City, you get a
basket full of stations. The result is that people, instead of thinking and
meditating, and reading the Word, and contemplating God; they have turned to
television. (We see here that by Brother Beuttler having a TV in his
house, and his reference to Pentecostal believers in the States, as well as
the members church he is visiting in Australia of all having televisions, --
that the argument over television in Christian households had already been
long lost among Pentecostals. But as we all well know this battle to captivate
[to place in captivity] believer’s minds only began there with each successive
layer of electronic gadgetry becoming more seductive than the last, VCR’s,
Cable Television, Video Gaming, The Internet, and now online gaming. The pull
in people’s lives of these virtual trees of knowledge of good and evil is
exponential above and beyond what TV was in its heyday.
In many churches our Sunday
night services are all but abandoned. Why? People are at home watching
television (Or any of the more updated things we are captivated by today) You
take a trans-Pacific flight: I go on a 10-11 hour non-stop flight. All right,
you have your meals and after awhile it’s movie time. Pull down the shades,
and now comes the movies. And people sit there hour after hour watching all of
that junk. They want to be entertained. (But there was and still is a lot more
going on here than just being entertained – things are entering the eye-gate
and the ear-gate and making imprints in our minds, in our souls, and dare I
suggest in our spirits. What was once outrageous, or in poor taste, or
altogether unclean by listening to the “ungodly’s” multitude of council day in
and day out and week in and week out becomes common placed, and just the
regular talk. The power of the media regardless of its form -- should
not be underestimated. In the book “The Media” experts from the industry boast
on how they have turned American society inside out, and have shaped political
opinion for decades – and have the graphs and charts to prove it.) What
a God-given opportunity to read and think, to review your life, to contemplate
things. That’s where I use my time for meditation, for waiting on the Lord,
for reading the Word or even magazine, for sitting there and doing some
thinking. (The) people (in the church) don’t want to think (either). They want
to be entertained (too). So you are lucky. You have only one station. In the
States, you can turn to a dozen stations. Here if you don’t like one program,
you have to turn the thing off. The best part of a television set is the
switch to turn it off, especially in light of the junk you get on it,- at
least we do at our home.
Now then:
He didn’t get up at 1:00 o’clock
in the morning and say, "Well now, I’m awake. What shall I do? I’ll think I’ll
go to the television set and watch the late show." I don’t know what you have,
but we have ‘The Evening Show;” we have “The Late Show; we have “The Late,
Late Show;” we have “The Late, Late, Late Show. And now halfway through the
morning, programs are still going on. Well, David did some meditating. Notice
what God says is Psalm 1:1-3:
Psalm1:1-3
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the
counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor
sitteth in the
seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord;
and in his law doth he meditate
day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted
by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf
also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall
prosper.
Do you notice in passing, how people
(These days are) deteriorating in their
relationship with God?
(The truth is most churches and believers have been
asleep for the last three decades and few and noticed anything even slightly
amiss.) First, you have walking,
then you have standing, then you have sitting. First we walk with the sinners.
Then we stand with them, and finally we sit with them. And then we are one of
them. (Beuttler knew, Beuttler foresaw this day, and what has
replaced the life and spirituality that those of his generation sought God
for, and found of Him.)
And
in his law doth he meditate day and night. What better thing to do at night than to contemplate the
Lord and to meditate in His Word? David used the night season to meditate on
the Lord and His Word. Psalm 119:55
gives us another activity related to this: I have remembered thy name, O Lord, in the night, and have kept thy
law. (Meditatation,
contemplation, remembering and delighting, none of these words imply
accidentally running into God. All of these words are deliberative acts,
deliberate in that they have to been knowingly done, and knowingly in the
place of something else. Another point is most of these words are deliberating
calling to memory things that most believers never give a second thought to. –
In other words here we see someone treating as precious, that which others
taken in by the cares of the world normally treat as common and trod under
foot.) David remembered His name during the night.
Now to think upon the name of
the Lord is to think upon what God is. His name is what He is. His name is His
character. In other words, if we could invent (which is impossible) one word,
which in one word would embody the sum total of all that God is. If all that
God is could be put into one word, that would be His name. In the Bible, the
Lord has many names. The reason the Lord has many names in the Bible is that
the Lord is so much that there is not any one name that could possibly be a
descriptive name of what He is. When we call upon His name, we call upon the
characteristics and attributes of God.
I’d like to now turn to
Isaiah 50:10:
Isaiah 50:10
Who is among you
that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice
of His
servant, (and) that
(ends up) walking in darkness, and
hath no light? Let him trust in the
name of the Lord, and stay upon his God.
Look here: There is such a thing in our Christian
experience as going through a period of darkness when misfortune has befallen
us, sorrow has touched us, trouble has come our way, and we are unable to
account for or find our way through it. I have heard it preached, Folks, if you are obeying the Lord, and walking daily
with God, you’ll never be in the dark."
There are those in evangelistic
faith healing circles who teach Job was not upright, that he was not perfect
in his ways before God And that all
that befell Job occurred because Job sinned and let his hedge down when he feared.
Folkses You know,
that just is not so.
Job was a choice saint of God,
and God said so. He was a man that feared God, stayed away from evil, was an
outstanding and righteous man, and he was in thick darkness for over a year
with the things that had befallen him.
But look here, look at who
these scriptures address, Who
is among you -- You! that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his
servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light?" Here you have a situation in Job, of a believer in God,
who fears
God, and obeys God, and yet has
trouble. In fact, it is true.
(And these things happen more than you
think.) (Pardon me here as I do not have time to
develop this thought.), that there are people who are going through
severe trouble, not because they failed God, but because they had
walked with God. And Job is an example of this.
The devil gets other
(Believers)
eyes on Job (And then gets other believers to stand in his place
accusing Job night and day.) . Now
what is such a person to do? Let him trust in the name of the
Lord, in what God is. And when we
go, as it were, through deep waters (Of deep trouble, deep darkness,
not because we have failed God, but because we have walked uprightly with the
Lord)
and when the Lord visits us in
the night, and awakes us in the night in one way or another, what are we going
to do? Let him contemplate the name of
the Lord. – (Let him meditate) what He is: He’s good, He’s faithful, He’s righteous, He
is a thousand and one things. The night season is a good time for thinking
upon His name.
Psalm
16:7 I will bless the LORD, who hath given me
counsel: (He who pulls) my
reins also instruct(s) me
in the night seasons.
In Psalm 16:7,
we see the night seasons are also for
instruction. And we also see we (can) learn things in the night
(Through our meditation, contemplation, remembering and delighting in the
Lord) that we (can not
and) do not learn, or are not
likely to learn, at any other time. I will
bless the Lord, who hath given me counsel; (He who
pulls) my
reins also instruct(s)
me in the night
seasons.
Now this word reins is a
difficult word in the Hebrew. It really means my kidneys, but in those earlier
years, the kidneys were regarded as the seat of our personality. We know
better now. What David is saying is that during
the night, God gives me instruction, and I learn things from my own contemplation, from God
speaking from within my own spirit. My own spirit will teach me
during the night. In my walk I have received from the Lord many instructions
during the night. So did Jesus.
Remember last Sunday? "The Lord God hath given me the tongue of the learned. He
wakeneth morning by morning, he wakeneth my ear as things that are
taught." The Lord instructs us during the night. We learn from our own
spirit. We see things more clearly often during the night when we can
concentrate on one thing or another.
I’m moving rapidly trying to
cover as much as I can. I’ll see what I can do.
Psalm
42:8 Yet the Lord will command his loving-kindness in
the daytime, and in the night
his song shall be with me, and my prayer unto the God
of my life.
His song shall be
with me. Now we’ll turn to Job for
a minute.
Job
35:10 But none saith, Where is God my maker, who giveth songs in the night?
Folkses, there are times when
during the night God gives us a song. Have you ever experienced this?
Who giveth songs
in the night." I had one the other
night. I can’t go into detail, I suppose, but I got a song from the Lord
during the night that changed my attitude toward the person. I told Wife in
the morning, "I have to take a different attitude toward that person. The Lord
gave me a song." It was a strange song for the occasion and I wondered what to
make of it. Then I made the connection.
I had an attitude toward a
person, though not totally wrong, was nevertheless, it was tarnished by a
wrong attitude. Which I would say, was at least contrary to Him. That song
taught me to modify my attitude, and consequently, my actions.
During the night He gives us
songs of worship, songs of David. I was up with the Lord one night while we
were here, and I was sitting there and happened to think about my itinerary. I
had a question. Should I, or should I not stop in a certain place. At once, a
song rose up, Publish glad tidings, tidings of
peace, and I knew right away I was to stop there. The Lord will guide
you many times with a song. (If you are not asleep with
everyone else.) He gives songs in
the night.
I was up another time when I was
last here, up for a little while with the Lord. And I had questions in my mind
about my having visiting a certain place. It was another one. In regards to
that place, I wanted to know whether I had made a mistake? That’s more
accurate. And as I wondered, a song came up, It
is well with my soul. Do you
sing that here? It is well with my soul.
Then I knew everything was all
right, and was able to leave it alone. He giveth songs in the night. If you
only knew that, (Deep within) you, you would then
discover many times the song that
comes to you is not simply there as a song, but it is a song to give us
instructions.
One night I was awakened out
of a deep sleep in the States, and I am a poor sleeper, but I was in a deep
sleep that time. I was awakened by a song that sang so -- shall I say, loud. I
heard it sing in my spirit, and there it was. The song woke me and the song
was: Up from the grave He arose. I knew
what it meant: It’s meant it was time to get up. That’s the school of the
Spirit. Who
giveth songs in the night. You must
watch for that thing. (Or they will pass you by.)
Many times I get these songs - by day too. I get one very often. Oh can I think
of it? I’m trying to hurry, and I’m not made for hurry.
I can’t think of it. It will
probably come to me. It’s a chorus the Lord often uses with me to alert me
that’s He’s going to call on me with something later on. Very often, it’s
prayer or intercession. The Lord uses songs by day. He gives songs by night.
If it comes to me, I’ll weave it in.
Turn to Ephesians 5:18-19 because the songs are not always a
special message or for guidance. Here is another purpose:
Ephesians 5:18-19 And
be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
Speaking to yourselves in Psalm and hymns and spiritual songs (Songs
of the Spirit), singing and making melody in
your heart to the Lord.
Here we see that the Lord, by
His Spirit, puts into our hearts a melody by day or by night. And when you get
(This song of the Spirit) it by day or night: Well, what will you do with this
melody? That is if it does not seem to be for guidance or anything. What do
you do with it? Oh, (I’m trying to make up a word) You melody it unto the
Lord. It doesn’t have to be loud, just let this thing
(Beuttler holds his hand over his chest) sing aloud, and let it sing unto the Lord like, (Beuttler
sings:) How Great Thou Art, or whatever it is that wells
up within you. Don’t just let this thing go around and around, and around and
around, and around and around, until it all dissipates into nothing. Take it and
make melody in your heart to the Lord.
You don’t have to wake the
family up in the middle of th night and shout all over the place. It doesn’t
say make melody with your voice, but it says Make
melody in your heart to the Lord"
So the Lord gives those songs.
And Job knew it. Who giveth
songs in the night.
Isaiah 26:9 With
my soul have I desired thee in
the night; yea, with my spirit
within me will I seek thee early.
(And all we have to do is begin to
meditate,
contemplate, remember and delight in the Lord -- and then really see what He
will do.)
http://www.alaskandreams.net/ekklesia/Meditating%20on%20the%20Lord.htm
Well we all do know that we also do experiences
unexpected, unpredictable, hail storms, with violent thunder too in our
own life's, where we are beset by negative events, negative circumstances and
things are not going the way we had expected them too. And we are not sure if
God still has things under his control and how we should react to these storms
of life. Two persons will face the same events, and yet their attitudes,
experiences may be totally different.. One person next Rejoices
over the events, and the other one is biiter over them. Why? (Heb 4:2
KJV) For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them: but the
word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that
heard it. (Eccl 8:6 KJV) Because to every purpose there is time and
judgment, therefore the misery of man is great upon him. (Eccl 8:11
KJV) Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily,
therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.12
Though a sinner do evil an hundred times, and his days be prolonged, yet
surely I know that it shall be well with them that fear God, which fear before
him:13 But it shall not be well with the wicked, neither shall he
prolong his days, which are as a shadow; because he feareth not before
God.
(Eccl 7:8
KJV) Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the
patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.
(Eccl 7:9
KJV) Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the
bosom of fools.
(Job 33:4 KJV) The spirit of God hath made me, and
the breath of the Almighty hath given me life.Then as we trust God and also
praise God we next will come through unscathed, victorious, and even learn the
lesson that God has designed for us through the storm..
(Eccl 5:15 KJV) As he came forth of his mother's
womb, naked shall he return to go as he came, and shall take nothing of his
labour, which he may carry away in his hand.
(Eccl 12:13 KJV) Let us hear
the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for
this is the whole duty of man.
And we always need to remember that (Eccl 2:26 KJV) For God giveth to a man that is
good in his sight wisdom, and knowledge, and joy: but to the sinner he giveth
travail, to gather and to heap up, that he may give to him that is good before
God. This also is ( for their) vanity and vexation of
spirit.
(Eccl 3:1 KJV) To every thing there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to
plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to
break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to
weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather
stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to
keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend,
and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of
war, and a time of peace.
(Eccl 9:12 KJV) For man also knoweth not his time:
as the fishes that are taken in an evil net, and as the birds that are caught
in the snare; so are the sons of men snared in an evil time, when it falleth
suddenly upon them.
(Eccl 7:14 KJV) In the day of prosperity be joyful,
but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against
the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him.
(Eccl 7:18 KJV) It is good that thou shouldest take
hold of this; yea, also from this withdraw not thine hand: for he that feareth
God shall come forth of them all
In psalm
29 David describes a thunderstorm sweeping over the Palestinian
countryside in a fury of lightning and thunder, accompanied by heavy rains and
resultant flood and destruction. Read it through and you will see that
the Psalm as a whole is a graphic setting in which God seeks to instruct His
children when they find themselves in circumstances comparable to such a
storm-for example, the flames of the fire of testing, the rumbling thunder of
fearful events and floods of unexpected reverses and innocent
sufferings.
Psalm 29:1 A Psalm of
David. Give unto the LORD, O ye mighty, give unto the LORD glory and
strength.
2 Give unto the LORD the glory due
unto his name; worship the LORD in the beauty of holiness.
3 The voice of the LORD is upon the waters: the God
of glory thundereth: the LORD is upon many waters.
4 The voice of the LORD is powerful; the voice of
the LORD is full of majesty.
5 The voice of the
LORD breaketh the cedars; yea, the LORD breaketh the cedars of Lebanon.
6 He maketh them also to skip like a calf; Lebanon
and Sirion like a young unicorn.
7 The voice of
the LORD divideth the flames of fire.
8 The
voice of the LORD shaketh the wilderness; the LORD shaketh the wilderness of
Kadesh.
9 The voice of the LORD maketh the hinds
to calve, and discovereth the forests: and in his temple doth every one speak
of his glory.
10 The LORD sitteth upon the
flood; yea, the LORD sitteth King for ever.
11
The LORD will give strength unto his people; the LORD will bless his people
with peace.
Notice the Psalmist's eloquent language:
The voice" of the Lord is upon the waters.... The voice
of the Lord is powerful; the voice of the Lord is full of majesty. The voice
of the Lord breaketh the cedars The voice
of the Lord divideth the flames of fire. The voice of the Lord shaketh the
wilderness....The voice of the Lord . . . discovereth the forests Psalm 29:
3-9.
In these turbulent circumstances of life it is of
paramount importance that we be properly oriented. A Christian
who is not sure of his position in the storm in relation to God is open to
additional though unnecessary difficulties. He becomes an easy prey to the
wiles of the enemy and a possible victim of the counsel of ignorant
advisers. In order to preclude any such eventuality one must turn to the
repeated use of the phrase, "the voice of the Lord," which occurs seven times.
This might appear to be mere meaningless repetition in the eyes of the casual
reader, yet this very repetition constitutes the heart of this remarkable
Psalm and provides the key to the whole problem namely, that the storm is "the
voice of the Lord". God. wants us to know that He speaks in the storm., by
means of the storm.
Now it might be rightly asked, "What does God say in the
storm?" In answer to this question another repetition must be observed.
The name "Lord" is used eighteen times. The meaning of the name "Lord" as used
in this Psalm is said to be, "He (who) is." This is very suggestive and so
appropriate because the enemy of our souls will seek to defeat us in the storm
by casting an aspersion on God as regards His promises.
The, enemy, will endeavor to_ make us believe that God is
the God who isn't. But this Psalm declares God is "He who is." "He who is
divideth the flames of fire" (lit., "sendeth forth the lightnings"). "The
voice of the He who is breaketh the cedars." "The voice of the He who is is
upon the waters," etc. This repetition of "Lord" leads us to the primary cause
of the storm - God, who seeks to reveal Himself as "the He (who)
is."
It must further be noted that there is a reference to
God, not merely in every verse, but in every statement. Altogether there are
twenty-two direct and two indirect references to God. The entire Psalm is
saturated with God, so to speak. What is the meaning of this? That God is in
the storm; that He is He who is when it seems He isn't. That He is in the
lightning, in the thunder, in the water, in all. The Psalm, we repeat, is
saturated with God; so is the experience. The believer in the storm, must see
and believe that He who is sent it; that He who is is in it; and that He who
is speaks by it.
Not only does God send the storm; He comes with it.
"The Lord sitteth upon the flood" (v. 10). This verse begins to throw
some light on the purpose of the storm. Since God is pictured as sitting upon
the flood, He evidently uses the flood as a means of conveyance, so that the
flood of the storm which comes into the believer's life brings God with it.
This remains true, whether God's purpose is to bring us more into the
fellowship of the sufferings of Christ, as mentioned in Philippians 3:10, or
God seeks to teach us lessons in order to give us a ministry of help and
comfort to those in distress, as stated in 2 Corinthians 1:4, 5. This
remains true, whether God needs to demonstrate to Satan that we serve Him
because of what He means to us (and not merely because of what He does for us
) as illustrated in Job 1:1 to 2:10, or whether His purpose is to Enlarge our
capacity and desire for Him.
The storm will often effect this by tearing us
loose from encumbrances that retard our progress, and from preoccupation with
things that compete with God for our attention and affection. Thus the storm
becomes a means whereby we are conditioned for a closer walk with God, as well
as a medium of conveyance, bringing God with it. "The Lord hath his way in the
whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet" Nahum
1:3. After the sky has cleared and the flood has subsided, the trusting
believer _will be conscious of a fresh deposit of the reality of the
presence of God in his heart, for "the Lord sitteth upon the
flood."
"The
Lord sitteth King forever" (v. 10). Hallelujah! Not only does He who is come
with it and sit upon it; He sits upon it as King, as Ruler, as Sovereign. In
other words, He controls the flood. The same Lord who uses the storm as a
vehicle, who thus conveys Himself into the believer's heart by a means and in
a manner which probably could not be as well accomplished in any other way,
exercises such a providential control that the flood, while it is great enough
to accomplish His purpose, is not so great that the believer would be engulfed
beyond his ability to stand it. "God is faithful, who will not suffer you to
be tempted above that ye are able," the apostle assures us. He who is is
completely Sovereign of the flood. He sits upon it, so He comes with it.
He sits King, so He holds it in control. He sits King "forever," so He is
always in control. This is the believer's assurance in the storm.
"The Lord will give strength unto his people; the
Lord will bless His people with peace" (v. 10). Strength and peace is
the believer's provision for the storm. God who sends the storm also grants
the strength to endure it. He "will with the temptation also make a way to
escape, that ye may be able to bear it" 1 Corinthians 10:13. This way of
escape is not so much a deliverance from the storm as it is a deliverance in
the storm. The grace and strength of God enables us to bear the storm
while the purpose of God is being
accomplished.
This strength will be imparted as we wait upon Him, not
as we wait for the sympathy of the people. "They that wait upon the Lord shall
renew their strength" Isaiah 40:31. Waiting upon God is as indispensable (and
as delightful) a Christian exercise as it ever was. There is no substitute.
Israel complained in Isaiah 40:27 in the same manner in which a Christian
might be tempted to complain in the storm: "My way is hid from the Lord, and
my judgment is passed over from my God." In other words, they complained that
God does not see, God does not care; and as another version has it, "the
justice due me is passed away." This questions the justice of God. There
is great danger in such an attitude. The context uses the words "faint,"
"weary," and "fall."
As far as the passage in Isaiah goes, this fainting,
wearying and threatened falling is due to lack of confidence in the
attributes of God Isaiah 40:28; failure to realize that God provides the
ability to walk with Him Isaiah 40:29. We are doomed to failure, even at the
height of our own resources Isaiah 40:30, unless we wait upon God for enabling
by His strength. "The Lord will give strength unto his people."
"They
that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with
wings as eagles. . . ." It has been said that in an approaching storm
all the birds will scurry for cover in fright, except the eagle. He will face
the storm, with wings spread, and will allow the howling, contrary wind to
carry him to great heights. This is the Christian's privilege in the storm.
Such an achievement takes the strength which only God can give; it requires
spending time in waiting before Him."The
Lord will bless his people with peace" (v.11). This is the promise of a
tranquil mind and heart in the middle of the storm. Peace not just after the
storm, but during the storm. The kind of peace that Christ had when "he was in
the hinder part of the ship, asleep on a pillow," during a storm that filled
the ship with water and threatened their lives (see Mark 4:38; Luke 8:23). Let
it be noted that these disciples were in the will of God, despite wind, waves,
and danger; for they had obeyed His command, "Let us go over unto the other
side of the lake." Our very obedience to God may lead us into a storm
which we would not otherwise experience, but it also leads to a
compensating revelation of His power which we would not otherwise
experience either.
The peace of God is not something negative, not a mere
absence of disturbance. It is something positive -the conscious presence of a
supernatural calm produced in our hearts by the Spirit. This peace is
"not as the world giveth"; it is not dependent on favorable circumstances. In
fact, it is independent of both favorable and unfavorable circumstances
alike. In short, it is truly His peace, the peace of God.
This peace acts as an insulator, as a defense against,
the disturbance of the storm. The strength of the Lord enables us to bear the
pressure of the storm, but the peace of God which passes all understanding
(and all misunderstanding too) keeps the disturbing elements of the outer
storm from penetrating our being.
This twin provision of strength
and peace logically leads to the consideration of our activity in the
storm.
"Give unto the Lord glory
and strength. Give unto the Lord the glory due unto his name; worship the Lord
in the beauty of holiness" (vv. 1, 2). This then should be our activity in the
storm- to give unto the Lord worship, to give Him glory. The angels are doing
it. ". . . And in his temple doth every one speak of His glory" (v. 9). In
any storm God calls for worship; we owe it to Him.
"Give unto the Lord, O ye mighty," Who are the mighty in
the storm? Those who know that it is the"stormy wind fulfilling His word"
(Psalm 148:8); those who see God in the storm and wait upon Him for strength.
They are called upon to give Him strength, to attribute and contribute, to
give Him the fruit of the strength He gave them, even praise in the midst
of the storm, and despite the storm- and even because of the
storm. The mighty in His strength will give Him glory and praise while they
behold the effects, of the storm, the broken cedars of their fondest hopes.
They, worship the Lord in the beauty of holiness without charging God
foolishly, though their hearts are oppressed with a terrible sense of
loneliness. They may feel as bleak within as is the desolation
without.
Though the spirit
may 'be crushed, and the will may falter because the future may seem empty,
God calls for worship with repeated emphasis. "Give unto the Lord," He calls,
"Give unto the Lord." Faith will respond and say, "It is the voice of the
Lord in the storm; therefore will I join the angels giving God
glory!" http://www.alaskandreams.net/ekklesia/articles.htm
God in these days
also is still speaking to us not just through the words in His
Bible. "You are
not to go to the left or to the right unless you hear a voice ( of the
Holy Sprit) saying this is the way walk there in".. Many of us have not
learned as to how to hear this voice .
It also now seems that unresolved
problems tend to make us seek God. How to draw closer to God. You have wanted
God to speak to you for a long time. You have wanted to talk to God and get
answers back. This is an opportunity for you to have a dialogue with
God. God too wants to communicate with you. You might have been in church, a
crusade, in your room, or outside under the stars. You felt God's call, but
you didn't know exactly what God wanted you to do. You knew you were going to
do something special, but you didn't know what it was. Now you can also find
out God's plan for you, and others too and the literature is all free
too. It teaches you how to hear God's voice. God will teach
you many things you need to know. Valid spiritual tools to help you make
conscious contact with God: Praise, Prayer, Humbleness, Obedience, the
Bible. Get yourself ready where God speaks to
you
In the book of Psalms we find
the expression of a yearning for God Himself; a cry from deep within our
hearts, for something more in God. And in reality this is a response to God’s
longing heart, His thirst for fellowship with men. That He might fill us to
overflowing that we might come into a deep abiding personal relationship with
Him and His Son Jesus Christ.
Psalm
84:2 My soul longeth yea fainteth for the courts of the
Lord.
This is a longing for His
presence and His anointing. This is a cry to walk in the Spirit. My friends,
there is something higher, something purer in God that is available to us in
this day and this very hour in which we walk. This longing for the Lord is the
irresistible urge as expressed by those who so hunger and so thirst after
God.
My
heart and my flesh crieth out for the Living God Have you
experienced this cry for Him to inhabit his people? Have you felt this yearning to be so clothed
upon by the Spirit of God? This spiritual longing is far different than the
cry of selfish earthly prayers of
men.
Psalm
63:1 O lord Thou art my God Early will I seek thee. My Soul thirsteth for
Thee. My flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land where no water
is. This is so apart from the typical Christian
experience. Are you so consumed with having this inner knowing of God? Do you
so thirst that you will be satisfied with nothing less than knowing Him in all
the fullness that can be known of him even as the apostles and the prophets of
old so knew Him?
David
said: “One thing have I desired of the Lord and that will I seek after . . .
” Many of this day are guilty of having divided hearts, so
that they seek many things. They seek for their ministry. They seek for
earthly riches. They seek for their own power. They seek to be seen of men.
But there are those who seek God for himself. Believing that His fellowship,
His presence, and His approbation are all the reward in
itself.
David said: “As a hart panteth after the water brooks so
panteth my soul after thee. . .” In out questing for the Lord
we find
ourselves running over hill and dale, running through mountains and valleys,
panting and longing with our mouth wide open, pressing forward, stretching
ourselves to reach His streams of living waters. Have you caught the scent of
His living waters? I am told that a deer can smell water from miles
away.
If you are
willing to lay aside your own personal aspirations. If you are willing to
close your wandering lustful eye. If you will reach out to Him with all your
heart, you too can enter into this wondrous thirst -- and sup with Him and
eating with Him of His secret manna and drinking with Him of His living
waters.
Psalm
107:9 For he satisfieth the longing soul,
(The
Thirsty) and
filleth the hungry soul with
goodness.
There is a terrific
operation of the Spirit going on today to bring the Sons of God into an
absolute confinement to the perfect will of God. This is the Day of His
Preparation the day in which He is preparing the channel through which He
shall pour forth His Glory for all
the world to see. This channel is His Body in the earth that glorious
company of people who are being conformed through much tribulation and fiery
tests to the Image of the Son of God. This is His "battle axe and weapons of
war" with which He shall subdue kingdoms and overcome all His enemies. This is
His "mighty and strong One" to whom He shall commit the work of judging this
world. This is His Overcomer, His "great army" with which He shall bring the
nations into submission. The weapons of their warfare are not carnal, natural
weapons but they are mighty weapons, mighty through God to the pulling down of
strongholds. These are those who shall "be strong and do
exploits."
But
before God can commit this great and tremendous ministry into their hands they
must submit themselves to the discipline of the Lord letting Him truly be the
Lord of their entire lives.
“Fear thou not, for I am with thee: be not
dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee;
yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness” (Isaiah
41:10).
How can I practice His abiding
presence?
1) Wait on the Lord: Begin each
day by rising up early and sit before Him. Consecrate your life afresh to be a
part of His will and purpose in the earth. Ask Him to cleanse and forgive you,
and to open your spirit to Him. Be aware of those things He has done for you
and His answers to prayer. For the Lord truly appreciates being
appreciated.
Have you ever come to the Lord
just to sit in His presence and fellowship with Him? We can be so taken up
with asking for things that we forget that He has personal feelings, too. You
might feel strange if people only came to you when they wanted
something.
2) Worship the Lord: Praise, the
Bible states, is the fruit of our lips. At times our praise can become lip
service rather than luscious fruit to God. This is something to be reckoned
with. What is worship? Worship is that which cries out from deep within to
bless the Lord. Praise can be singing to the Lord, but worship is singing
before the Lord. “But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers
shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth: for the Father seeketh such to worship him” (John
4:23). To come to this higher level requires a special creative working of God
within us as we wait before Him. “But we all, with open face beholding as in a
glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to
glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord” (II Cor. 3:18). Entering into a more vital worship and
waiting in His presence is a life changing experience.
3) Meditating on God’s Word: “My
meditation of Him shall be sweet: I will be glad in the Lord” (Ps 104:34).
There is a sweetness in His
presence, holding His word before Him during the day. The word “meditate”
comes from an old English word which literally means, “to chew the cud,” to ponder, to turn over in one’s
mind. When we meditate on His word, we receive a strength and an understanding that we cannot get
otherwise. “And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us. . .” (John 1:14).
This is God’s very life and nature entering the depths of our being as we sit
with Him meditating on His word!
4) Smell the Roses Along the Way: There is a saying that
rings with meaning: “As you go throughout the garden of life, don’t forget to
smell the roses along the way.” There are joys and many things to be
experienced as we walk out our life in God. It is possible to get so busy that
we lose the joy of our salvation, becoming too mechanical for simple things.
But God hides Himself in simplicity. If we learn to enjoy where we are in God
appreciating what God is doing with and in us, we will make much more progress
in our Christian life.
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/06/22/as-to-what-is-a-christian/
Can a person
change?
Here also is what I know for
sure, the older the person is the more extreme, more severe, the more
difficult the punishment has to be on them to cause them to personally
to change in their own negative ways, for they are too set in them now
too.
Beware though — most bad persons employ false
denial techniques that build more walls between them and others.
Being nice. kind,
friendly to a really bad person is still also a complete waste of
time, for they will not change their negative behaviors on their own, they
see no reasons to do so now still too. Sad but true. We cannot
never control a bad person, a drug addict or an alcoholic, but we can learn
all about it and learn firstly to control our own behavior, appropriate
responses –including how we should behave in the relationship with the
sick and suffering and /or possibly manipulative addict or alcoholic, abuser..
Can a Person change
themselves? Is there hope for anyone?
Now we all seem to meet all type of persons in real
life, the control freaks, verbal and human right abusers, Bullies, enslavers,
liars, cheaters, imposters, pretenders, con artists too. And we often do
wonder why they do not change..
In fact it is next impossible try to to change others. I
have seen many marriage fail cause the wife was naďve to believe she could
change her husband instead of accepting him for who, what he was at the time
of marriage. After all it is easier to change oneself than others too but
wrongfully most people try to change others and not themselves. .
In reality also now
whether you are talking now about a parent, a relative, about spouses,
criminals, alcoholics, drug addicts to what ever no one can be helped firstly
who refused to admit they need help, and next also refuses thus next any help
to change now as well.
And in truth the only people I have ever seen who
manifested any lasting, real changes were these people changed by God,
who had next became born again, and to be fully truthful here too next half of
them even got worse again next, a dog who returned to their vomit, they denied
next the DENIED THE SAME FAITH THEY BELIEVED IN TOO.
The Big Book of
Alcoholics Anonymous rightfully says that only God can next heal, relieve the
sin, the illness of addiction. It requires the addictive person to first
confess they have sinned and next ask for God’s forgiveness, help.
Too many a persons also do
falsely deny who they really are, hiding behind prestigious or pretentious
facade that they are unknown, cannot be discerned, read, known cause they are
too complex.. you can fool some of the people some of the time, most of the
people most of the time but not all of the people all of the time..
The fastest way to change
is by praying, even by the prayers of others, reading the Bible as well..
Jesus himself said a
person can be known simply by what they do. good people do good things.. and
bad people tend to do bad things.
(Mat 7:18 KJV) A good tree cannot bring forth evil
fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.
(Mat 7:19 KJV) Every
tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the
fire.
(Mat 7:20
KJV) Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
(Mat 7:21 KJV) Not
every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of
heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
(Mat 7:22 KJV) Many
will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name?
and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful
works?
(Mat 7:23
KJV) And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from
me, ye that work iniquity.
(Mat 7:24 KJV) Therefore whosoever heareth these
sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built
his house upon a rock:
(Mat 7:25 KJV) And the rain descended, and the
floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not:
for it was founded upon a rock.
(Mat 7:26 KJV) And every one that heareth these
sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man,
which built his house upon the sand:
(Mat 7:27 KJV) And the rain descended, and the
floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and
great was the fall of it.
Beware always of men and women, bullies, tormentors,
control freaks, persons, civil and public servants, politicians,
pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to enslave you, oppress
you, exploit you even while they claim they are proclaiming the truth,
democracy, trying to help you, etc.,
Is 51:23 ..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who
said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made
your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass
over.
Today many Children are also being falsely led
to believe that Gambling, Alcohol and Bad drug use is generally
safe. The average 18 year old has seen 100,000 television commercials
encouraging him or her to drink. That’s why 80% of high school seniors have
tried alcohol, 32% have gotten drunk in the last thirty days, 43% smoke
marijuana, and about one third are smoking cigarettes. Most addicts die of
their addiction and they take their family members down with them. The first
step in any help program recovery is to get honest with yourself. Get honest
even as to what the other person is really like.. Do not let them take you
down the drain with them next too..
We all must take any personal addiction seriously because
25% of North Americans die as a result of substance abuse. The average
alcoholic dies twenty-six years earlier than he or she would otherwise. Drug
users, alcoholics, cheaters, abusers, adulterers affect negatively continually
too the lives of at least six others
Establish
Boundaries, Set Limits, Set detachement. One example of setting a
boundary is telling a close friend, aloved one that you prefer they not
be around you if they are smoking, drunk or high. Notice that it is
specific deamnd, and you have to sit down and communicate this type of request
explicitly with that someone. Setting a boundary like this is difficult
because there is this tendency to hurt other’s feelings. But that is part of
what is keeping you ineffective– your caring more about this person’s feelings
than your own personal well being. Setting boundaries is about putting your
own personal well being and even that of others first, and letting that be a
guiding example of how to live. You know you are setting effective boundaries
when you are taking back control of your own life firstly and starting to
regain your own sanity–instead of being all wrapped up in the problems of a
struggling smoker, rebel, drug addict or alcoholic.
“Here are some things that
you can do in order to practice detachment with the struggling pervert in your
life:
-Don’t do things that they should be doing
themselves.
-Don’t bend over backwards to rescue them
or save them from natural consequences.
-Don’t cover
up for their mistakes or embarrassing situations.
-Don’t rescue them from crisis or financial
situations.
-Don’t try to fix them.
-Let go of any guilt you may have about them
Detachment is not about denying your emotions. If someone
close to you dies, for example, you will probably feel sad. You can’t choose
this feeling. It simply is. But we do have the power to affect the intensity
of this feeling, by focusing on the positive aspects of the situation. We can
also change our thinking in an attempt to eradicate irrational beliefs that
might be contributing to our emotional turmoil.
The
goal is not to go without emotions, the goal is to achieve some level of
emotional stability. We are detaching from the negative, irrational thoughts
that stir up our emotions–like the guilt we might have if we think someone’s
perversity, addiction is our fault.
Detachment is
difficult and takes practice.”
It also now seems that unresolved problems tend to make
us seek God. How to draw closer to God. You have wanted God to speak to you
for a long time. You have wanted to talk to God and get answers back.
This is an opportunity for you to have a dialogue with God. God too
wants to communicate with you. You might have been in church, a crusade, in
your room, or outside under the stars. You felt God’s call, but you didn’t
know exactly what God wanted you to do. You knew you were going to do
something special, but you didn’t know what it was. Now you can also find out
God’s plan for you, and others too and the literature is all free
too. It teaches you how to hear God’s voice. God will teach
you many things you need to know. Valid spiritual tools to help you make
conscious contact with God: Praise, Prayer, Humbleness, Obedience, the Bible.
Get yourself ready where God speaks to you Do see
https://pbulow.tripod.com/wait.html and https://pbulow.tripod.com/voice.html
Beware though
— most bad persons employ false denial techniques that build more walls
between them and others.
Being nice. kind, friendly to a really bad
person is still also a complete waste of time, for they will not change
their negative behaviors on their own, they see no reasons to do
so now still too. Sad but true. We cannot never control a bad person, a drug
addict or an alcoholic, but we can learn all about it and learn firstly to
control our own behavior, appropriate responses –including how we should
behave in the relationship with the sick and suffering and /or possibly
manipulative addict or alcoholic, abuser..
Can a Person change themselves? Is there hope for
anyone?
Now we all
seem to meet all type of persons in real life, the control freaks,
verbal and human right abusers, Bullies, enslavers, liars, cheaters,
imposters, pretenders, con artists too. And we often do wonder why they
do not change..
In
fact it is next impossible try to to change others. I have seen many marriage
fail cause the wife was naďve to believe she could change her husband instead
of accepting him for who, what he was at the time of marriage. After all it is
easier to change oneself than others too but wrongfully most people try to
change others and not themselves. .
In reality also now whether you are talking now about a
parent, a relative, about spouses, criminals, alcoholics, drug addicts to what
ever no one can be helped firstly who refused to admit they need help, and
next also refuses thus next any help to change now as well.
And in truth the only
people I have ever seen who manifested any lasting, real changes were
these people changed by God, who had next became born again, and to be fully
truthful here too next half of them even got worse again next, a dog who
returned to their vomit, they denied next the DENIED THE SAME FAITH THEY
BELIEVED IN TOO.
The
Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous rightfully says that only God can next heal,
relieve the sin, the illness of addiction. It requires the addictive person to
first confess they have sinned and next ask for God’s forgiveness, help.
Too many a persons
also do falsely deny who they really are, hiding behind prestigious or
pretentious facade that they are unknown, cannot be discerned, read, known
cause they are too complex.. you can fool some of the people some of the time,
most of the people most of the time but not all of the people all of the
time..
The fastest way
to change is by praying, even by the prayers of others, reading the Bible as
well..
Jesus himself
said a person can be known simply by what they do. good people do good
things.. and bad people tend to do bad things.
(Mat 7:18 KJV) A
good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring
forth good fruit.
(Mat
7:19 KJV) Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down,
and cast into the fire.
(Mat 7:20 KJV) Wherefore by their fruits ye shall
know them.
(Mat 7:21
KJV) Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the
kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in
heaven.
(Mat 7:22
KJV) Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied
in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many
wonderful works?
(Mat
7:23 KJV) And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart
from me, ye that work iniquity.
(Mat 7:24 KJV) Therefore whosoever heareth these
sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built
his house upon a rock:
(Mat 7:25 KJV) And the rain descended, and the
floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not:
for it was founded upon a rock.
(Mat 7:26 KJV) And every one that heareth these
sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man,
which built his house upon the sand:
(Mat 7:27 KJV) And the rain descended, and the
floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and
great was the fall of it.
Beware always of men and women, bullies, tormentors,
control freaks, persons, civil and public servants, politicians,
pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to enslave you, oppress
you, exploit you even while they claim they are proclaiming the truth,
democracy, trying to help you, etc.,
Is 51:23 ..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who
said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made
your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass
over.
Today many Children are also being falsely led
to believe that Gambling, Alcohol and Bad drug use is generally
safe. The average 18 year old has seen 100,000 television commercials
encouraging him or her to drink. That’s why 80% of high school seniors have
tried alcohol, 32% have gotten drunk in the last thirty days, 43% smoke
marijuana, and about one third are smoking cigarettes. Most addicts die of
their addiction and they take their family members down with them. The first
step in any help program recovery is to get honest with yourself. Get honest
even as to what the other person is really like.. Do not let them take you
down the drain with them next too..
We all must take any personal addiction seriously because
25% of North Americans die as a result of substance abuse. The average
alcoholic dies twenty-six years earlier than he or she would otherwise. Drug
users, alcoholics, cheaters, abusers, adulterers affect negatively continually
too the lives of at least six others
Establish
Boundaries, Set Limits, Set detachement. One example of setting a
boundary is telling a close friend, aloved one that you prefer they not
be around you if they are smoking, drunk or high. Notice that it is
specific deamnd, and you have to sit down and communicate this type of request
explicitly with that someone. Setting a boundary like this is difficult
because there is this tendency to hurt other’s feelings. But that is part of
what is keeping you ineffective– your caring more about this person’s feelings
than your own personal well being. Setting boundaries is about putting your
own personal well being and even that of others first, and letting that be a
guiding example of how to live. You know you are setting effective boundaries
when you are taking back control of your own life firstly and starting to
regain your own sanity–instead of being all wrapped up in the problems of a
struggling smoker, rebel, drug addict or alcoholic.
“Here are some things that
you can do in order to practice detachment with the struggling pervert in your
life:
-Don’t do things that they should be doing
themselves.
-Don’t bend over backwards to rescue them
or save them from natural consequences.
-Don’t cover
up for their mistakes or embarrassing situations.
-Don’t rescue them from crisis or financial
situations.
-Don’t try to fix them.
-Let go of any guilt you may have about them
Detachment is not about denying your emotions. If someone
close to you dies, for example, you will probably feel sad. You can’t choose
this feeling. It simply is. But we do have the power to affect the intensity
of this feeling, by focusing on the positive aspects of the situation. We can
also change our thinking in an attempt to eradicate irrational beliefs that
might be contributing to our emotional turmoil.
The
goal is not to go without emotions, the goal is to achieve some level of
emotional stability. We are detaching from the negative, irrational thoughts
that stir up our emotions–like the guilt we might have if we think someone’s
perversity, addiction is our fault.
Detachment is
difficult and takes practice.”
It also now seems that
unresolved problems tend to make us seek God. How to draw closer to God. You
have wanted God to speak to you for a long time. You have wanted to talk to
God and get answers back. This is an opportunity for you to have a
dialogue with God. God too wants to communicate with you. You might have been
in church, a crusade, in your room, or outside under the stars. You felt God’s
call, but you didn’t know exactly what God wanted you to do. You knew you were
going to do something special, but you didn’t know what it was. Now you can
also find out God’s plan for you, and others too and the literature is all
free too. It teaches you how to hear God’s voice. God will
teach you many things you need to know. Valid spiritual tools to help
you make conscious contact with God: Praise, Prayer, Humbleness, Obedience,
the Bible. Get yourself ready where God speaks to you Do see
https://pbulow.tripod.com/wait.html and
https://pbulow.tripod.com/voice.html
my teenager smokes, does not listen to
me
Many persons complain that my teenager smokes, does not
listen to me.. obviously he also does not listen to God ,
the teenager does not know how to communicate with God now next too. You still
need to pray for Him that God will deal with
him..
(Prov 22:6 KJV) Train up a child
in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from
it.
Understandably too many persons are discontented unhappy
today with themselves ,and others and they basically have a God shaped vacuum
that they are trying to fill in with alcohol, bad drugs, verbal abuse , power,
control, sex, smoking or whatever, and none of this counterfeit fulfillment
will even help to make for their own personal lasting happiness
too.
Well in
love you also do need to set down some rules, and hold to them such as
if you live under my roof, eat my bread, you abide by my rules.. or you do not
get to eat, sleep here.. and you need to deal with their theft likely too,
such as where are they getting the money for the
cigarettes..
Being nice. kind, friendly to a really
bad person is still also a complete waste of time, for they will
not change their negative behaviors on their own, they see no
reasons to do so now still too. Sad but true. We cannot never control a bad
person, a drug addict or an alcoholic, but we can learn all about it and learn
firstly to control our own behavior, appropriate reponses –including how we
should behave in the relationship with the sick and suffering and /or
possibly manipulative addict or alcoholic, abuser..
I personally had never smoked because
my parents had never let me and when I grew up and became an adult next I saw
no good reason to smoke, saw next only plenty of bad ones, such it is
bad for your health, shortens your life too.
Establish
Boundaries, Set Limits, Set detachement. One example of setting a
boundary is telling a close friend, aloved one that you prefer they not
be around you if they are smoking, drunk or high. Notice that it is
specific deamnd, and you have to sit down and communicate this type of request
explicitly with that someone. Setting a boundary like this is difficult
because there is this tendency to hurt other’s feelings. But that is part of
what is keeping you ineffective– your caring more about this person’s feelings
than your own personal well being. Setting boundaries is about putting your
own personal well being and even that of others first, and letting that be a
guiding example of how to live. You know you are setting effective boundaries
when you are taking back control of your own life firstly and starting to
regain your own sanity–instead of being all wrapped up in the problems of a
struggling smoker, rebel, drug addict or alcoholic.
"Here are some
things that you can do in order to practice detachment with the
struggling pervert in your life:
-Don’t do things
that they should be doing themselves.
-Don’t bend over
backwards to rescue them or save them from natural consequences.
-Don’t cover up for their mistakes or embarrassing
situations.
-Don’t rescue them from crisis or
financial situations.
-Don’t try to fix them.
-Let go of any guilt you may have about them
Detachment is not about denying your emotions. If someone
close to you dies, for example, you will probably feel sad. You can’t choose
this feeling. It simply is. But we do have the power to affect the intensity
of this feeling, by focusing on the positive aspects of the situation. We can
also change our thinking in an attempt to eradicate irrational beliefs that
might be contributing to our emotional turmoil.
The
goal is not to go without emotions, the goal is to achieve some level of
emotional stability. We are detaching from the negative, irrational thoughts
that stir up our emotions–like the guilt we might have if we think someone’s
perversity, addiction is our fault.
Detachment is
difficult and takes practice."
Parents clearly have responsibility to bring up their
children themselves properly.. including a proper religious
education
- They the parents need to prepare
their children for real life..
- thus also they need to prepare their
children to be able to have a decent job, by getting a decent
education
- and
they the parents also do need to bring up their children for marriage too, not
falsely spoiling them.. Sadly many children do not even know next as
adult how to cook, prepare a meal, sew, clean a house, they still even lack
the discipline to even do so next..
(Deu 5:29
KJV) O that there were such an heart in them, that they would fear me,
and keep all my commandments always, that it might be well with them, and with
their children for ever!
(Deu
31:13 KJV) And that their children, which have not known any thing, may
hear, and learn to fear the LORD your God, as long as ye live in the land
whither ye go over Jordan to possess it.
(1 Chr 9:23
KJV) So they and their children had the oversight of the gates of the
house of the LORD, namely, the house of the tabernacle, by wards.(2 Chr 20:13
KJV) And all Judah stood before the LORD, with their little ones, their
wives, and their
children.
(2 Chr 25:4
KJV) But he slew not their children, but did as it is written in the law
in the book of Moses, where the LORD commanded, saying, The fathers shall not
die for the children, neither shall the children die for the fathers, but
every man shall die for his own sin.
(Psa 78:4
KJV) We will not hide them from their children, showing to the
generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his
wonderful works that he hath done.
(Psa 78:5
KJV) For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in
Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to
their children:
(Psa 78:6
KJV) That the generation to come might know them, even the children
which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their
children:
(Jer 32:18
KJV) Thou showest lovingkindness unto thousands, and recompensest the
iniquity of the fathers into the bosom of their children after them: the
Great, the Mighty God, the LORD of hosts, is his name,
(Jer 32:39
KJV) And I will give them one heart, and one way, that they may fear me
for ever, for the good of them, and of their children after them:
(1 Tim
3:12 KJV) Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their
children and their own houses well.
(Titus 2:4
KJV) That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their
husbands, to love their children,
(Rev 3:19
KJV) As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and
repent.
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http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/27/can-a-person-change/
The false divorce
incentives
(Luke
14:31 KJV) Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth
not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet
him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the
other is yet a great way off, he sendeth an ambassage, and desireth conditions
of peace.
Contrary to the devil's and lawyers
lies, only the lawyer's and the courts are those persons who tend to get
richer, profit generally from a divorce. On top of that Divorce persons tend
to have a shorter life span, and more health problems as well compared to the
others.
A spouse also tends not to file for
divorce unless certain conditions are met..
- The think they can get richer by a
divorce.. but 2 can live cheaper than one..
- They have a substitute mate in mind,
whom they should have consulted first, cause often they have no intention ever
of marrying them too..
- The have the false support of their
family, mother generally, brother and sister. Even often a false pastor, a
false church now too.
- They have adequate cash at hand to
pay for the initially lawyer's fees. you would be surprised how many spouses
still keep a hidden bank account from the other spouse, eventually the other
spouse finds out and this causes really deep bitterness, anger, resentment,
even unforgiveness too.
There's no
doubt there are abusive spouses, male and females.. but often one spouses
provokes the other one into an abusive response knowingly beforehand as
well..
Still there
are no real spousal winners in broken home, a broken marriage generally now
still too.
Both men and women often still
are no angels.
Can a true
professing Christian now file for divorce? and why do so many Christians still
do get divorced?
There is
clearly only one legitimate grounds for divorce for all believers, it is when
one an unrepentant spouse had committed adultery and refuses to
repent... yes then divorce is mandatory here.. if they repent it is
not!
But as far as
unbelievers, we do not have to judge them they have been already judged by God
and are going to Hell unless they repent (Rom 2:16 KJV) In the day when
God shall judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ according to my gospel.
(1 Cor 5:12 KJV) For what have I to do to judge
them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within? (1 Cor 5:13 KJV) But them that are without God
judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked
person.
(1 Cor
6:1 KJV) Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law
before the unjust, and not before the saints? 2
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall
be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters? 3 Know
ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this
life? 4 If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set
them to judge who are least esteemed in the church. 5 I speak to your
shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that
shall be able to judge between his brethren? 6 But brother goeth to law
with brother, and that before the unbelievers. 7 Now therefore there is
utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye
not rather take wrong? why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded?
8 Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren. 9 Know ye
not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not
deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate,
nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous,
nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of
God. 11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are
sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the
Spirit of our God. 12 All things are lawful unto me, but all things are
not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under
the power of any.
Yes, murder, divorce, adultery, stealing, drunkeness too
and lying are all wrong; All are a sin. John tells us, "Whoever commits
sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness" (I John 3:4). Sin is the
breaking of God's commands, so, yes, breaking any command of God is sinful.
Sin is seprating oneself from God, into an initial hell and
eventually into an eternal hell even by one's own free will choice as
well. Sins can be repeatedly committed to the point that a person
becomes numb to the guilt of violating God's law. (Prov 21:29 KJV)
A wicked man hardeneth his face: but as for the upright, he directeth his way.
(Prov
28:14 KJV) Happy is the man that feareth alway: but he that hardeneth
his heart shall fall into mischief. (Prov 29:1 KJV) He, that being often reproved
hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.
(Rom 9:18
KJV) Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he
will he hardeneth.
"Now the Spirit expressly says that in
latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits
and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own
conscience seared with a hot iron" (I Timothy 4:1-2). A word used for this
state is "licentiousness," which has been briefly defined as being deluded to
think that you have a license to sin. A related word, "lasciviousness" is
defined as the state where a person doesn't care what God or man thinks of his
actions. Generally these words are applied to sexual sins, but any sin can
develop into licentiousness. "For certain persons have crept in unnoticed,
those who were long beforehand marked out for this condemnation, ungodly
persons who turn the grace of our God into licentiousness and deny our only
Master and Lord, Jesus Christ" (Jude 4).
For true Christian believers a mutually
agreed temporary marital separation is also permissible but not a divorce..
why not a divorce.. cause they will do the same wrong things definitely in
their next marriage too.
(1 Cor 7:10 KJV) And unto the
married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her
husband:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be
reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his
wife.
(1 Cor 7:12 KJV) But to the rest
speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she
be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
(1 Cor 7:13 KJV) And the woman
which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with
her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified
by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were
your children unclean; but now are they holy.
(1 Cor 7:15 KJV) But if the
unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage
in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
Contrary to the devil's and lawyers
lies, only the lawyer's and the courts are those persons who tend to get
richer, profit generally from a divorce. On top of that Divorce persons tend
to have a shorter life span, and more health problems as well compared to the
others.
A spouse also tends not to file for
divorce unless certain conditions are met..
- The think they can get richer by a
divorce.. but 2 can live cheaper than one..
- They have a substitute mate in mind,
whom they should have consulted first, cause often they have no intention ever
of marrying them too..
- The have the false support of their
family, mother generally, brother and sister. Even often a false pastor, a
false church now too.
- They have adequate cash at hand to
pay for the initially lawyer's fees. you would be surprised how many spouses
still keep a hidden bank account from the other spouse, eventually the other
spouse finds out and this causes really deep bitterness, anger, resentment,
even unforgiveness too.
There's no
doubt there are abusive spouses, male and females.. but often one spouses
provokes the other one into an abusive response knowingly beforehand as
well..
Still there
are no real spousal winners in broken home, a broken marriage generally now
still too.
Both men and women often still
are no angels.
Can a true
professing Christian now file for divorce? and why do so many Christians still
do get divorced?
There is
clearly only one legitimate grounds for divorce for all believers, it is when
one an unrepentant spouse had committed adultery and refuses to
repent... yes then divorce is mandatory here.. if they repent it is
not!
But as far as
unbelievers, we do not have to judge them they have been already judged by God
and are going to Hell unless they repent (Rom 2:16 KJV) In the day when
God shall judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ according to my gospel.
(1 Cor 5:12 KJV) For what have I to do to judge
them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within? (1 Cor 5:13 KJV) But them that are without God
judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked
person.
(1 Cor
6:1 KJV) Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law
before the unjust, and not before the saints? 2
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall
be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters? 3 Know
ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this
life? 4 If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set
them to judge who are least esteemed in the church. 5 I speak to your
shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that
shall be able to judge between his brethren? 6 But brother goeth to law
with brother, and that before the unbelievers. 7 Now therefore there is
utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye
not rather take wrong? why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded?
8 Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren. 9 Know ye
not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not
deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate,
nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous,
nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of
God. 11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are
sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the
Spirit of our God. 12 All things are lawful unto me, but all things are
not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under
the power of any.
Yes, murder, divorce, adultery, stealing, drunkeness too
and lying are all wrong; All are a sin. John tells us, "Whoever commits
sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness" (I John 3:4). Sin is the
breaking of God's commands, so, yes, breaking any command of God is sinful.
Sin is seprating oneself from God, into an initial hell and
eventually into an eternal hell even by one's own free will choice as
well. Sins can be repeatedly committed to the point that a person
becomes numb to the guilt of violating God's law. (Prov 21:29 KJV)
A wicked man hardeneth his face: but as for the upright, he directeth his way.
(Prov
28:14 KJV) Happy is the man that feareth alway: but he that hardeneth
his heart shall fall into mischief. (Prov 29:1 KJV) He, that being often reproved
hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.
(Rom 9:18
KJV) Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he
will he hardeneth.
"Now the Spirit expressly says that in
latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits
and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own
conscience seared with a hot iron" (I Timothy 4:1-2). A word used for this
state is "licentiousness," which has been briefly defined as being deluded to
think that you have a license to sin. A related word, "lasciviousness" is
defined as the state where a person doesn't care what God or man thinks of his
actions. Generally these words are applied to sexual sins, but any sin can
develop into licentiousness. "For certain persons have crept in unnoticed,
those who were long beforehand marked out for this condemnation, ungodly
persons who turn the grace of our God into licentiousness and deny our only
Master and Lord, Jesus Christ" (Jude 4).
For true Christian believers a mutually
agreed temporary marital separation is also permissible but not a divorce..
why not a divorce.. cause they will do the same wrong things definitely in
their next marriage too.
(1 Cor 7:10 KJV) And unto the
married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her
husband:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be
reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his
wife.
(1 Cor 7:12 KJV) But to the rest
speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she
be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
(1 Cor 7:13 KJV) And the woman
which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with
her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified
by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were
your children unclean; but now are they holy.
(1 Cor 7:15 KJV) But if the
unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage
in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
The Bible says that Adultery is God's trap, punishment
for those whom he is upset at.. and the same Bible says that God does still
punishes people even for their sins even if they have been forgiven as a
deterrent for them not to sin anymore.
The too common abusive silent
treatment
Is the continual silent treatment, the clear attempt at
ignoring you, even for days or weeks a sign of a mental abuse?
Absolutely yes! We all have am equal right to speak
and to be heard now as well. We tend talk to those people we love, and reject,
ignore, divorce those people we hate. No question about it. This
type of response is a common and immoral act by selfish, spoiled, self
centered persons. Anything that they now next can do to upset
you, to get you guessing about why too, or to make you think that you have
done something wrong, have them is their basic approach,
motive.
The
silent treatment it can be damaging to the individual’s emotional health
where the victim report a sense of not belonging, loss of control, lower
self-esteem and a feeling of unworthiness. People with a low self
esteem, ostracized females tend to work very hard to win back the good graces
of others but most males still do not.
The
silent treatment is another definite, abusive, calculated form of
power control over others and also a pre calculated mind game that the
abuser falsely plays on their victims . Spouses, Teachers, Neighbors, Pastors,
bosses also wrongfully play this game. And the victim could be anyone, a
spouse, boyfriend or a mother, neighbor. They do
want an overly submissive reaction from you, to bring you under their
false bondage, to firstly still only make themselves feel more powerful
and better than you. Now basically isn't that what they are looking for that
big word POWER, Control, Domination. All friendship, relationship, submission
too is reciprocal, and unenforced.
By openly
ignoring you they try to falsely say that you are not important to them or any
others or that to them you do not exist!! They falsely devalue you as a person
and make you feel less as a person or at least do try to
so The abuser IS TRYING TO TO DEGRADE YOU TO FALSELY
MAKE HIMSELF/HERSELF FEEL BETTER AND is NOW ONLY PUSHING THEMSELVES
RATHER. THEY ARE THE LOSERS NOW. Your recognition of the problem is 90 percent
of the solution here too.
Persons who use
this approach tend to escalate next to other forms of abuses also to get their
way. If confronted about this, they are exposed, they next often
tend to deny and deny their course of action, aim, to
lie. There here is basically nothing wrong with you, and
remember that, you never really do not deserve this kind of treatment from
anyone. It IS mental abuse! These bad people do need to find a better
way for their anger management. The
adequate response next is to Tell them openly that you are aware they are
upset at you, what they are doing you will give them next 5 minutes to
talk about it and to get it out out of their system, and then you do not want
to hear or see it again. You will go on with your life. Anyway this absue
only works only if you allow them to abuse you. Go on now, next
with your life even without them if you have
too.
(Psa 79:5 KJV) How
long, LORD? wilt thou be angry for ever? shall thy jealousy burn like
fire?
(Psa 80:4 KJV) O
LORD God of hosts, how long wilt thou be angry against the prayer of thy
people?
(Psa 85:5 KJV)
Wilt thou be angry with us for ever? wilt thou draw out thine anger to all
generations?
(Jer 9:5 KJV) And they will deceive every one his
neighbour, and will not speak the truth: they have taught their tongue to
speak lies, and weary themselves to commit iniquity. 6 Thine habitation
is in the midst of deceit; through deceit they refuse to know me, saith the
LORD.
(Jer 9:8 KJV) Their tongue is as an arrow shot out;
it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth,
but in heart he layeth his wait.
(Jer 9:9 KJV) Shall I not visit them for these
things? saith the LORD: shall not my soul be avenged on such a nation as
this?
(Eccl 7:9 KJV) Be
not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of
fools.
(Jonah 4:4 KJV)
Then said the LORD, Doest thou well to be angry?
(Eph 4:26 KJV) Be
ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your
wrath:
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For
the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one
covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take
heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
(Eph 4:25 KJV)
Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we
are members one of another.
(1 John
2:11 KJV) But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in
darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded
his eyes.
(1 John 3:15 KJV) Whosoever hateth his brother is a
murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in
him.
I also do want
to state that for all professing Chrsitians Divorce is also equally wrong and
hurts our society just as much.. and it too should not be practiced in any
Christian church by any Christian persons too..
Now in the Christian church all lusts, rape, adultery,
sex outside of marriage, per the Bible now too, is immoral, unacceptable, and
was well all human rights abuses are also still unacceptable, whether it is
verbal, physical.. God never approves of it neither should any of us.. the
public exposure and prosecution of the bad persons serves everyone’s best
interest next too.. being kind, nice to bad guys is a waste of time, for they
will not change unless they themselves experience real, negative, personal
appropriate consequences .. we need to hate all evil, all abuses and to be
angry at it too.. we can use the whip to deal with it like Jesus did to chase
out the money lenders, commercial business in the temple, Christian Churches
soley. Some persons would say that many homosexuals are violent and sexually
deviant, but others would rather point out that most of the violent, sexual
deviants are heterosexual men harming women, then they next are charged
with getting off-topic, but one still can add the reality that anyone who
files for divorce, male or female is also a sexual deviant.. according the
same Bible. We need to stand against all sins in the church.
In reality all men and women are still born and do act as
equal sinners. And thus all unacceptable sins and abuses need to be presented
honestly, fairly and equally too and not just as one side bashings of the
abortionists, or gays now too.. even in the churches now
too.
We still
cannot force anyone, gays included to believe like we do, to live like we do
as well, for they have their own free will, rights too, but in love we can try
to use our free speech right and tell them how the Bible sees their behavior
too..
Changing yourself
first,
positively
Introduction
Many a
person has found himself in an unbearable situation, a bad marriage, bad
job, or whatever.. and wants to change their circusmanstance.. but you need to
see firstly still that it is firstly easier to adapt, to change
yourself and often impossible to try to change others. You still
need God's help to make any changes too.
Steps To Reaching Your Destiny - Changing yourself first
-positively
" Today I want to share with you Steps To Reaching
Your Destiny. This paper will give you a basic guideline that should give your
direction and inspiration about reaching your destiny in Christ.
Step Number One: Choose A Big Dream! ( But first make sure, confirm with God and his Word,
it is God's dream for you and not your own)
Many times our lives are filled with planning and
thinking about issues that will bring very little significance to our lives.
Today I want to challenge you to choose a big dream, strive to reach your full
potential and destiny in Christ.
Don't become so caught up with the small issues of life
that you can't take advantage of the important dreams and opportunities God
has for you! Make a decision this morning to take the time to think big! God
is a big God!
"If you are hunting rabbits in tiger country, you must
keep your eye peeled for tigers, but when you are hunting tigers you can
ignore the rabbits." H. Stern
There are plenty of tigers to go around, don't be
distracted by the rabbits.
Once you have set your faith on a big dream remember
those who don't take chances don't make advances. Even a turtle doesn't get
ahead unless he sticks out his neck.
Step Number Two: Don't Waste Tomorrow By Feeding On Your
Yesterdays ( you cannot change the past but you can
help to work on changing the future for self even .)
(Luke 9:62 NIV)
Jesus replied, "No one who puts his hand to
the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God."
We live is a society of excuses and victims. Everyone is
a victim today! I am a victim of my color, my genetics, my physical abuse, my
sexual abuse, my finances, etc. It is time for us to stop blaming the past for
our present failures and it is time to look forward with the faith and victory
of Christ!
(2 Cor 5:17 KJV) Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is
a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become
new.
The more you look backward, the less time you have to
look forward! Always learn from the past but invest your time and energies in
the future. Never, never, never waste another moment of your life grieving,
worrying or regretting the past that Christ h as already forgiven you of and
forgotten.
(Phil 3:13 KJV) Brethren, I count not myself to have
apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are
behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
(Phil 3:14 KJV) I press toward the mark for the prize of
the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
The thing that destroys more people is the continual
looking at their past and not looking to their future. You can not go back and
change the past but you can go forward and change your future.
Today is the day when I will shake off the shackles of
the past and move forward in Christ!
Step Number Three: Always
Tell The Truth
T.L. Osborn said, "Always tell the truth, and you never
have to remember what you said." The ninth commandment is, "Thou shalt not
lie." Each Christian who desires to reach their full destiny in God must learn
to tell the truth. We must be men and wome n of integrity and
honor.
You will never have
success in life if you built your future on half-truths and lies!
(Prov 12:22 KJV) Lying lips are abomination to the LORD:
but they that deal truly are his delight.
(Prov 19:9 KJV) A false witness shall not be unpunished,
and he that speaketh lies shall perish.
Prov 19:9: Verse 9. Lying is a damning, destroying sin.
(Col 3:9 KJV) Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have
put off the old man with his deeds;
(Col 3:10 KJV) And have put on the new man, which is
renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:
Seven Results of Lying: (
besides the fact that you tend to delude, deceive yourself next, and you start
to believe, act upon your own lies)
1) You will attract liars into your life and business
dealings.
(Prov 17:4 KJV) A wicked doer giveth heed to
false lips; and a liar giveth ear to a naughty tongue.
Prov 17:4: Verse 4. Flatterers, especially false
teachers, are welcome to those that live in sin.
2) You will lack understanding.
(Psa 119:104 KJV) Through thy precepts I get
understanding: therefore I hate every false way.
3) You will never enjoy permanent success.
(Prov 12:19 KJV) The lip of truth shall be established
for ever: but a lying tongue is but for a moment.
Prov
12:19: Verse 19. If truth be spoken, it will hold good; whoever may be
disobliged, still it will keep its ground.
(Prov 12:19
NIV) Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.
(Prov 21:28 KJV) A false witness shall perish: but the
man that heareth speaketh constantly.
Prov 21:28:
Verse 28. The doom of a false witness is certain.
4) You will eventually end up in bondage and failure.
(Gal 2:4 KJV) And that because of false brethren unawares
brought in, who came in privily to spy out our liberty which we have in Christ
Jesus, that they might bring us into bondage:
5) You will eventually be punished.
(Prov 19:5 KJV) A false witness shall not be unpunished,
and he that speaketh lies shall not escape.
Prov 19:5:
Verse 5. Those that tell lies in discourse, are in a fair way to be guilty of
bearing false-witness.
6) You will become a fool.
(Prov
10:18 KJV) He that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a
slander, is a fool.
Prov 10:18: Verse 18. He is
especially a fool who thinks to hide anything from God; and malice is no
better.
7) Your lies will always come back to haunt you.
(Psa 7:14 KJV) Behold, he travaileth with iniquity, and
hath conceived mischief, and brought forth falsehood.
(Psa 7:15 KJV) He made a pit, and digged it, and is
fallen into the ditch which he made.
(Psa 7:16 KJV)
His mischief shall return upon his own head, and his violent dealing shall
come down upon his own pate.
Determine today to speak the truth!
Step Number Four: Refuse To
Walk in Fear and Worry! ( Even in the false
submission to the oppressors, perverts, liars too)
Fear and worry are the interest you pay in advance for
something you may never own. Worry is the triumph of fear over faith! Worry is
the misuse of God's creative imagination and powers in our lives. Worry
literally means to strangle or to choke off. When we worry we are strangling
the very hope and faith of our future and destiny.
Fundamentals For Overcoming Worry:
1) Live in day tight compartments.
2) When you face problems:
A: Ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that could
possibly happen?"
B: Prepare to accept the worst.
C: Try to improve on the worst.
3) Remember worry literally destroys your physical well
being and health.
4) Get all the facts before your
allow yourself to worry or fear.
5) Weigh all the
facts and make the best decision possible based upon knowledgeable facts.
6) Once you have made a prayerful decision act upon
it.
7) Write out and answer the following
questions:
A: What is the problem?
B: What
are the causes of the problem?
C: What are the
possible solutions?
D: What is the best
solution?
When you worry and fear you stop the creative powers of
God to show you the solutions.
(Psa 55:22 KJV) Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he
shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be
moved.
When you worrying you are diminishing the greatness of
God in your life! Don't worry or fear take them to Christ for He cares for
you.
Step Number Five: Choose
Your Friends Wisely ( you are always known by the
company you keep, so choose, get honest, decent good associates)
We need to be very careful about the kind of people we
allow to become our friends. Our friends should be those who inspire us and
bring out the best in you.
(Prov 27:19 TLB) A mirror reflects a man's face, but what
he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.
(Prov 13:20 NIV) He who walks with the wise grows wise,
but a companion of fools suffers harm.
We become like the people we associate with! Choose your
friends wisely! It is better to be alone than to be with the wrong friends.
(Eccl 4:9 TLB) Two can accomplish more than twice as much
as one, for the results can be much better.
(Eccl 4:10 TLB) If one falls, the other pulls him up; but
if a man falls when he is alone, he's in trouble.
(Eccl 4:11 TLB) Also, on a cold night, two under the same
blanket gain warmth from each other, but how can one be warm alone?
(Eccl 4:12 TLB) And one standing alone can be attacked
and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even
better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
Amateurs teach amateurs to be amateurs. If you want
success you must decide to choose your friends wisely. You must associate with
those who are going to positively influence your life and stand faithfully
with you in the times of battle.
Take a moment and look at your friends are they helping
you to serve Christ in a greater way or do they weaken your walk with
Him?
Step Number Six: Be willing
to Change! ( to make some movement now as well..)
When you quit growing and changing in Christ you have
made the decision to fail. This is true in every area of our lives. There are
three things you should know about the future:
1) It is not going to be like the past.
2) It is not going to be exactly the way we think it's
going to be.
3) The rate of change will be faster than
we can imagine.
(Isa 42:9 KJV) Behold, the former things are come to
pass, and new things do I declare: before they spring forth I tell you of
them.
(Isa 42:9 TLB)
Everything I prophesied came true, and now I will prophesy again. I will tell
you the future before it happens."
If you are truly seeking God and your destiny you will be
able to know the future in advance and make the necessary adjustments to adapt
to the changes. Always be prepared to change. If you are not changing you are
not preparing for the future.
Step
Number Seven: If You Know What God Can't Do You Will Know What He Can Do! ( God he will help next do for you what you cannot do if
it is in His Will)
1) God cannot lie.
2) God cannot
change.
3) God cannot recall our sins after we have
asked for forgiveness.
4) God cannot be the author of
confusion.
5) God cannot leave us or forsake us.
6) God cannot go back on His promises.
7) God cannot revoke His gifts.
8) God cannot be pleased without faith.
9) God cannot be defeated.
10)
God cannot be too big for our problems.
11) God cannot
be too little for our problems.
12) God cannot break
His covenants.
13) God cannot revoke His calling in
our lives.
14) God cannot do anything contrary to the
scriptures.
15) God cannot give anything to a
double-minded man.
16) God cannot be forced into an
impossible situation.
17) God cannot ignore the
praises of His people.
18) God cannot be our
problem.
19) God cannot be late.
20) God cannot be weak.
21) God
cannot be against us.
22) God cannot be limited or
confined.
Step Number Eight: Know That God can Use You
Right Where You Are Today! ( Inspite of who and what
you are..)
God always uses willing vessels.
God will use you right where you are today. Many people are concerned that
they are not qualified to be used by God. God will use anyone who is willing
to follow him.
1) Matthew was a government employee a tax collector who
became an apostle.
2) Gideon was a common laborer who
became a valiant leaders of men.
3) Jacob was a
deceiver who became Israel.
4) Deborah was a housewife
who become a judge.
5) Moses was a stutterer who
became a deliverer.
6) David was a shepherd boy who
became a king.
7) Hoses was a marital failure who
prophesied to save Israel.
8) Joseph was a prisoner
who became a prime minister.
9) Peter was a fisherman
who became the rock.
10) Isaiah was a man of unclean
lips who prophesied the birth of Christ.
11) Paul was
a persecutor who became the greatest missionary of all.
12) Mary was a unknown virgin who became the mother of
Christ.
God will use you regardless
of your present circumstances and he loves you enough to help in your present
state. All God needs to use you is all of you! "
Messed up...
Messed up... excuse the language but too
many people now are also messed up and who can you really blame
themselves, the devil, God, their mother, their father,
others?
Legitimate or not I often have people
coming to me telling me their sob stories, and I next still have
rightfully often wondered why I seem to hear from them only in the bad times,
and is that how they treat even God now as well? and why they are in
trouble now too?
For it does
still seem that troubles do have a way of making many of us turn to God..
especially when a doctor says there is nothing further he can do.. and when it
seems you have fallen into a dark pit and there is no other way out.. and some
people say there are no atheist in a war zone, fox hole?but here is where some charlatans, crooks come in too..
they say send me your prayers and your money of course and things next will be
better for you, but after you send in your prayer requests and money nothing
positive happens that seems to be too often rather the case next
too.
So who can you next trust to help you?
the adulterous , abusive Church pastor, the priest, the teacher, even
those persons that abuse others, molest children, or the too often lying
no good lawyers, Politicians, bad cops now too often as well?
The Bible clearly indicates to us
all often of many great saints who had also face unexpected,
insurmountable obstacles, problems and they next conquered them too.. not by
turning to mere men and women, but turning directly to GOD alone in
humbleness, desperation too. (Psa 51:17 KJV) The sacrifices of God are a
broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not
despise.
Yes it is
better to trust in God alone, directly then in mere man, in
others..
But what next often has astonished me, so many professing
Christians do not even now how to hear directly God's vioice, instructions, as
to what to do next? and they are likely very typical of the 95 percent
professing Christians who do not read their Bibles more than 5 minutes a day,
never mind even next practice what the Bible says we all should too.(Psa
118:4 KJV) Let them now that fear the LORD say, that his mercy endureth
for ever.(Psa 118:5 KJV) I called upon the
LORD in distress: the LORD answered me, and set me in a large
place.(Psa 118:6 KJV) The LORD is on my side; I will not fear:
what can man do unto me?(Psa 118:7 KJV) The LORD taketh my part with
them that help me: therefore shall I see my desire upon them that hate
me.(Psa 118:8 KJV) It is better to trust in
the LORD than to put confidence in man.(Psa 118:9 KJV) It is
better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes.(Psa 118:10
KJV) All nations compassed me about: but in the name of the LORD will I
destroy them.(Psa 118:11 KJV) They compassed me about; yea, they
compassed me about: but in the name of the LORD I will destroy them.
(Psa 118:12
KJV) They compassed me about like bees; they are quenched as the fire of
thorns: for in the name of the LORD I will destroy them.
(Psa 118:13
KJV) Thou hast thrust sore at me that I might fall: but the LORD helped
me.
(Psa 118:14 KJV) The LORD is my strength and song,
and is become my salvation.
(Psa 118:15
KJV) The voice of rejoicing and salvation is in the tabernacles of the
righteous: the right hand of the LORD doeth valiantly.
(Psa 118:16
KJV) The right hand of the LORD is exalted: the right hand of the LORD
doeth valiantly.
(Psa 118:17
KJV) I shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the
LORD.
(Psa 118:18
KJV) The LORD hath chastened me sore: but he hath not given me over unto
death.
(Psa 118:19
KJV) Open to me the gates of righteousness: I will go into them, and I
will praise the LORD:
(Psa 118:20
KJV) This gate of the LORD, into which the righteous shall
enter.
(Psa 118:21
KJV) I will praise thee: for thou hast heard me, and art become my
salvation.
(Psa 118:22
KJV) The stone which the builders refused is become the head stone of
the corner.
(Psa 118:23
KJV) This is the LORD'S doing; it is marvellous in our eyes.
(Psa 118:24
KJV) This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be
glad in it.
(Psa 118:28
KJV) Thou art my God, and I will praise thee: thou art my God, I will
exalt thee.
(Psa 118:29 KJV) O give thanks unto the LORD; for
he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever.
The danger of
excessive
The danger
of excessive eating, anger, emotions, mourning, boasting, or what ever is
mere common sense and it next can lead to a loss of self control which will
for sure next lead one to be demon possessed too sadly. Live in
moderation.
And face
life with this verse (Rom 8:28 KJV) And we
know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who
are the called according to his purpose.
(Jer 32:39
KJV) And I will give them one heart, and one way, that they may fear me
for ever, for the good of them, and of their children after them:
(1 Cor 8:3
KJV) But if any man love God, the same is known of him.
(1 John 4:20
KJV) If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for
he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he
hath not seen?
(1 John 5:2
KJV) By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God,
and keep his commandments.
(Deu 12:7
KJV) And there ye shall eat before the LORD your God, and ye shall
rejoice in all that ye put your hand unto, ye and your households, wherein the
LORD thy God hath blessed thee.
(Deu 16:14
KJV) And thou shalt rejoice in thy feast, thou, and thy son, and thy
daughter, and thy manservant, and thy maidservant, and the Levite, the
stranger, and the fatherless, and the widow, that are within thy
gates.
(Deu 26:11
KJV) And thou shalt rejoice in every good thing which the LORD thy God
hath given unto thee, and unto thine house, thou, and the Levite, and the
stranger that is among you.
(1 Sam 2:1
KJV) And Hannah prayed, and said, My heart rejoiceth in the LORD, mine
horn is exalted in the LORD: my mouth is enlarged over mine enemies; because I
rejoice in thy salvation.
(2 Chr 6:41
KJV) Now therefore arise, O LORD God, into thy resting place, thou, and
the ark of thy strength: let thy priests, O LORD God, be clothed with
salvation, and let thy saints rejoice in goodness.
(Psa 9:2
KJV) I will be glad and rejoice in thee: I will sing praise to thy name,
O thou most High.
(Psa 9:14
KJV) That I may show forth all thy praise in the gates of the daughter
of Zion: I will rejoice in thy salvation.
(Psa 13:5
KJV) But I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in thy
salvation.
(Psa 20:5
KJV) We will rejoice in thy salvation, and in the name of our God we
will set up our banners: the LORD fulfil all thy petitions.
(Psa 31:7
KJV) I will be glad and rejoice in thy mercy: for thou hast considered
my trouble; thou hast known my soul in adversities;
(Psa 33:1
KJV) Rejoice in the LORD, O ye righteous: for praise is comely for the
upright.
(Psa 33:21
KJV) For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his
holy name.
(Psa 35:9
KJV) And my soul shall be joyful in the LORD: it shall rejoice in his
salvation.
(Psa 63:11
KJV) But the king shall rejoice in God; every one that sweareth by him
shall glory: but the mouth of them that speak lies shall be
stopped.
(Psa 66:6
KJV) He turned the sea into dry land: they went through the flood on
foot: there did we rejoice in him.
(Psa 85:6
KJV) Wilt thou not revive us again: that thy people may rejoice in
thee?
(Psa 106:5
KJV) That I may see the good of thy chosen, that I may rejoice in the
gladness of thy nation, that I may glory with thine inheritance.
(Psa 149:2
KJV) Let Israel rejoice in him that made him: let the children of Zion
be joyful in their King.
(Eccl 3:22
KJV) Wherefore I perceive that there is nothing better, than that a man
should rejoice in his own works; for that is his portion: for who shall bring
him to see what shall be after him?
(Eccl 11:8
KJV) But if a man live many years, and rejoice in them all; yet let him
remember the days of darkness; for they shall be many. All that cometh is
vanity.
(Isa 25:9
KJV) And it shall be said in that day, Lo, this is our God; we have
waited for him, and he will save us: this is the LORD; we have waited for him,
we will be glad and rejoice in his salvation.
(Isa 29:19
KJV) The meek also shall increase their joy in the LORD, and the poor
among men shall rejoice in the Holy One of Israel.
(Isa 41:16
KJV) Thou shalt fan them, and the wind shall carry them away, and the
whirlwind shall scatter them: and thou shalt rejoice in the LORD, and shalt
glory in the Holy One of Israel.
(Isa 61:7
KJV) For your shame ye shall have double; and for confusion they shall
rejoice in their portion: therefore in their land they shall possess the
double: everlasting joy shall be unto them.
(Isa 61:10
KJV) I will greatly rejoice in the LORD, my soul shall be joyful in my
God; for he hath clothed me with the garments of salvation, he hath covered me
with the robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom decketh himself with
ornaments, and as a bride adorneth herself with her jewels.
(Isa 65:19
KJV) And I will rejoice in Jerusalem, and joy in my people: and the
voice of weeping shall be no more heard in her, nor the voice of
crying.
(Jer 31:13
KJV) Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, both young men and old
together: for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and
make them rejoice from their sorrow.
(Joel 2:23
KJV) Be glad then, ye children of Zion, and rejoice in the LORD your
God: for he hath given you the former rain moderately, and he will cause to
come down for you the rain, the former rain, and the latter rain in the first
month.
(Hab 3:18
KJV) Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my
salvation.
(Phil 3:1
KJV) Finally, my brethren, rejoice in the Lord. To write the same things
to you, to me indeed is not grievous, but for you it is safe.
(Phil 4:4
KJV) Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.
More Wine does not prevent Cancers, nor
does being a drunk, or smoking, doing bad drugs prolong ones health too..
There is no pit deep enough that Jesus
next cannot help you to get out of still .
there still can be
a good life after divorce with God's
help...
>>My
ex-husband smokes pot and drinks a lot, and I am told, so does his girlfriend.
He once told me that I am too righteous because I don’t drink or do drugs,
and I attend church.
that was a
verbal abuse if I have ever seen one..
so do thank God
daily that he has now removed your from this abusive
relationship..
and do ask Him,
God to take all the tears away and he will.
(Psa 4:8
KJV) I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only
makest me dwell in safety.
(Rev 21:4 KJV) And God shall wipe away all tears
from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying,
neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed
away.
there still can
be a good life after divorce with God's help...
Perhaps the best thing for preserving marriages
is..
The most common complaint that I have heard in my
lifetime from men, from about 60 percent of them, was I have only one major
problem in my life and it is my wife.. and who had made him marry her in the
first place?
Perhaps
the best thing for preserving Christian marriages is their frequent church
attendance, both of them, plus daily practising being a real
Christian..
Ever notice how few church people next do go to the Sunday
night services, or especially the Wednesday night prayer meetings now too? and
why is that?
"here are the divorce rates among ever-married
respondents in the General Social Survey (GSS, 2000-2004)—one of the best
known sources of sociological data.
“Frequent” is attending church about once a week or more.
http://brewright.blogspot.com/2006/12/christian-divorce-rates.html58%,
non-frequent Black Protestants
54%, non-frequent
Evangelicals
51%, no religion (e.g., atheists &
agnostics)
48%, ALL NON-CHRISTIANS
48%, non-frequent, other religions
47%, frequent Black Protestants
42%, non-frequent, mainline Protestants
41%, ALL
CHRISTIANS
41%, non-frequent Catholics
39%, Jews
38%, frequent other
religions
34%, frequent Evangelicals
32%, ALL FREQUENT
CHRISTIANS
32%, frequent mainline
Protestants
23%, frequent Catholics
I also analyzed data from previous years of the GSS and
from five other national surveys, and they showed the same pattern:
Christians, especially those who frequently attend church, have relatively low
divorce rates."
My real experiences is that I have been too often
sexually propositioned , and so have many other pastors too, in even the
evangelical churches now too.
There is a demonic myth being spread today amongst the
churches too that a 30 percent divorce rate amongst frequent Church attendees
is acceptable.. but not in God's eyes, for God says he hates Divorce!!! No
divorce is acceptable for HIM! Divorce , adultery are just as sinful,
unacceptable as prostitution, pornography, lust, drunkness,
cheating, lying, stealing too.
(Mal 2:16 KJV) For the LORD, the
God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence
with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit,
that ye deal not treacherously.
(Mal 2:17 KJV) Ye have wearied
the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye
say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he
delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?
Many people are really astounded
for the false reasons for the much too many divorces in America these days,
even in the Christian Churches.
Marriage
(Heb 13:4 KJV) Marriage is honourable in all, and
the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will
judge.
(Heb 13:5 KJV) Let your conversation be without
covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I
will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
The first thing I do when I
apply for a Job, is to find out what position I have, what I am going to
do.
The second
thing I want to know besides how much will I get paid for it is what is the
organization chart, the responsibilities of others too.
(1 Sam 15:23 KJV) For rebellion
is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.
Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee
from being king.
War Mongers, Strife, lusts,
exists on the Internet, on our home as well and
elsewhere
Genesis 2:18, 21-24— “And
the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone. I will make
him a help meet for him. And the Lord God cause a deep sleep to fall upon
Adam, and he slept and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh
instead thereof. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a
woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my
bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken
out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall
cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
(Eph 5:21 KJV) Submitting
yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
(Eph 5:22 KJV) Wives, submit
yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
(Eph 5:23 KJV) For the husband
is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is
the saviour of the body.
(Eph 5:24 KJV) Therefore as the
church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in
every thing.
(Eph 5:25 KJV) Husbands, love
your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for
it;
(Eph 5:26 KJV) That he might
sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
(Eph 5:27 KJV) That he might
present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any
such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
(Eph 5:28 KJV) So ought men to
love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth
himself.
(Eph 5:29 KJV) For no man ever
yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord
the church:
(Eph 5:30 KJV) For we are
members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
(Eph 5:31 KJV) For this cause
shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife,
and they two shall be one flesh.
(Eph 5:32 KJV) This is a great
mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
(Eph 5:33 KJV) Nevertheless let
every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife
see that she reverence her husband.
(Eph 6:1 KJV) Children, obey
your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
(Eph 6:2 KJV) Honour thy father
and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
(Eph 6:3 KJV) That it may be
well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
(Eph 6:4 KJV) And, ye fathers,
provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and
admonition of the Lord.
(Exo 20:12 KJV) Honour thy
father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD
thy God giveth thee.
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Focus
on the Family SUPPOSEDLY provides timely, relevant, godly
information information and advice on marriage, parenting, faith,
entertainment, life challenges and social issues.. and it has been my
own often real experienced that most people who mainly focused on
their own family were persons who cast out too often
their own inlaws, because they still were mostly
discriminatory, guilty of false partialities, unloving, unkind,
unfriendly and ungodly persons. Ironically they tend to divorce,
separate from most other persons not in their own family and they next
tend to reap what they sowed and become martially divorced themselves
too.
A clan is a group of people united by
kinship and descent, which is defined by perceived descent from a common
ancestor.
(Mat 19:5 KJV) And said, For this cause shall
a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they
twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to
give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He
saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered
you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his
wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth
adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit
adultery.
(Prov 21:9 KJV), (Prov 25:24 KJV) It is better to dwell in the
corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide
house.
And lately it's occured to me again
that too often the members of the clan Family DO share some things in
common such as even sinful, really "Bad Family Values", false
pride, passed on from one generation to the other too. One can also see
"The Influence of Human Relationships on
Heart Disease,"
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(Deu 13:6 KJV) If thy brother, the son of thy
mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the wife of thy bosom, or thy friend,
which is as thine own soul, entice thee secretly, saying, Let us go and serve
other gods, which thou hast not known, thou, nor thy fathers; 7 Namely, of the
gods of the people which are round about you, nigh unto thee, or far off from
thee, from the one end of the earth even unto the other end of the earth; 8
Thou shalt not consent unto him, nor hearken unto him; neither shall
thine eye pity him, neither shalt thou spare, neither shalt thou conceal him:
9 But thou shalt surely kill him; thine hand shall be first upon him to
put him to death, and afterwards the hand of all the people.10 And thou shalt
stone him with stones, that he die; because he hath sought to thrust thee away
from the LORD thy God, which brought thee out of the land of Egypt, from the
house of bondage. 11 And all Israel shall hear, and fear, and shall do
no more any such wickedness as this is among you.
(Mat 10:34 KJV) Think not that I am come to send
peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a
sword.
(Mat 12:50 KJV) For whosoever
shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and
sister, and mother.
Mark 3:35 KJV) For whosoever
shall do the will of God, the same is my brother, and my sister, and
mother.
Ironically many of these same people tend to be STILL
HYPOCRTICAL, pretentious, in that they are kind to their relatives,
brothers and sisters generally only on holidays, birthdays and they tend to
abuse, neglect them the rest of the year.
(Rom 2:18 KJV) And knowest his
will, and approvest the things that are more excellent, being instructed out
of the law;
(Rom 2:19 KJV) And art confident
that thou thyself art a guide of the blind, a light of them which are in
darkness,
(Rom 2:20 KJV) An instructor of
the foolish, a teacher of babes, which hast the form of knowledge and of the
truth in the law.
(Rom 2:21 KJV) Thou therefore
which teachest another, teachest thou not thyself? thou that preachest a man
should not steal, dost thou steal?
(Rom 2:22 KJV) Thou that sayest
a man should not commit adultery, dost thou commit adultery? thou that
abhorrest idols, dost thou commit sacrilege?
(Rom 2:23 KJV) Thou that makest
thy boast of the law, through breaking the law dishonourest thou
God?
(Acts 10:34 KJV) Of a truth I
perceive that God is no respecter of persons:
(Gal 3:28 KJV) There is neither
Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor
female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
(Rom 2:9 KJV) Tribulation and
anguish, upon every soul of man that doeth evil, of the Jew first, and also of
the Gentile; 10 But glory, honour, and peace, to every man that worketh good,
to the Jew first, and also to the Gentile: (Rom 2:11 KJV) For there is
no respect of persons with God.
(Gal 3:27 KJV) For as many of
you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. 28 There is
neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male
nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
(1 Cor 15:50 KJV) Now this I
say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither
doth corruption inherit incorruption.
Here is another simple
rule. You have to ask to be forgiven too before you can be forgiven
and you still also do have to accept the
forgiveness
Abstainers
Genuine Born Again Evangelical
Christians are total abstainers from smoking, drugs, alcohol, cheating, lying,
stealing, tax evasions, pornography, or rather all personal vices,
Impairments
Reality! These days it is too hard to
tell the difference between secular persons and even evangelical pastors,
Christians they seem to do the same things too. Why are alcoholics always
in denial? and why do they often lie, cheat, steal also now? Because if
they do admit the truth they are alcoholics, sinners too they do have
now to repent of the sin of disobeying God’s word about being drunk too.. so
they take the ostrich denial approach instead too often. Alcoholism still is a
sin of a deliberate, personal choice, and to be set free you have to admit
your sin, confess it, renounce it, ask God for forgiveness through Jesus
Christ as well.. It is not only wrong for the average person it is also
especially wrong for leaders in the government, politicians. It is amazing how
one can quickly spot an alcoholic, while they cannot still see their sin, and
how quick they are to oppose themselves being exposed now too..
I admit I had lost all
respect for the supposedly great preacher Spurgeon who was so ready to preach
to others about their sins, but he himself now could not resist the
Temptation of a cigar. Similar we find out that other preachers could
not give up smoking too.. Look at this reference in regard to AB Simpson, the
past founder of the Christian Missionary Alliance denomination now too.
“The Man, the movement, and the mission-A documentary of the C&MA”
Cut directly from their national web site. It was the custom for the ministers
of the district to meet together to discuss all things common. This little
reunion, in its proper sequence, was held one day at the Manse. And
unaccountably strange odor of tobacco smoke began to steal upstairs. Suddenly
the study door flew open and a towering figure of fury - all of four feet, one
inch in its stocking feet - stood at the threshold. “SMOKING! Out of this
house!” said Grannie Simpson, and in a body the ministerial association
moved.
https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=15796002&postID=3424830162204895882
http://reversion-clause.com/
…
The CMA is a pretentious and one of the most demonic
churches I have been too made up of lying hypocrites where the professing
Christians not only abuse people, poor people included, but they indulge in
Alcohol too often too.. “I know that as a minister in the C&MA I am called
to abstain from drinking alcoholic beverages, here at Safe Harbor there are
just a few of people who voluntary give up drinking. The majority of our
church drinks: beer, wine, and of course margaritas. I do not have a problem
with this. Some pastors would. I can sum up my position by quoting Derek Webb,
“While I do not condone drunkenness, I do condone drinking”
http://lukecamara.blogspot.com/2007/05/jesus-and-wine.html
and what other pastoral
vices now are now being PERMITTED falsely today, the handing out of
beer, wine, alcoholic beverages, playboy, pornography, acts of cheating,
lying, stealing, STEALING THE TITHES, adultery, tax evasions still?
The Evangelical CMA
Christian PM Stephen Harper should also note that the New Conservatives
themselves now tend to be just as much alcoholics as the Liberals. Any false
preconceived notions that they generally are not is clearly a myth .Even our
professing Canadian Christian Evangelical prime Minister Stephen Harper, and
others, still should note that these are basic, ground rules in proper
Bible interpretation that must be followed before anyone even attempts to
fully study, apply the Holy Scripture even related to consuming much too
many Alcoholic beverages now too? He personally and falsely, undeniably
loves his alcoholic wine, beer much too much still too? WE ALL DO NEED
to have a right attitudes EVEN all of leaders, pastors, elders too, and
they have to lead by a good personal example too.
Look I am not alone in this view.. too many Canadian
persons have noticed that we have much too many alcoholics in the governments,
even as elected ones, even as leaders, Brian Mulroney was known for his
boozing now too.. Regretfully still there much too many alcoholics
even in the Conservative party now for my liking, , in this area too
they are just as bad as the Liberal too it seems.. and who can
forget Ralph Klein's alcoholic outburts too, A man is certainly known what he
is like by the friends he keep and having an brain damaged alcoholic as a
friend, as a drinking buddy is really no virtue, it is a sad
recommendation, a poor reference that you cannot even be now proud off..
The Prime Minister Stephen Harper a professing Christian Missinary Alliance
Evangelcial too had said that the ex PM Brian Mulroney was a close friends..
he Harper now really better start to get better friends and appointees than
his alcoholic drinking buddies.. and still not one cent of taxpayers' money
should ever be even used to buy any alcoholic, alcohol at any
governmental function, expense account.. for we all know how bad alcoholism is
and how much evil , suffering it brings, all alcoholics should be
fired, especially all of the alcoholic the public and civil
servants, all alcoholic elected officials too and not
rather falsely rewarded with more alcohol for almost all of them are
already known to be liars, cheat's thieves, abusers, etc..
There are several basic,
ground rules in proper Bible interpretation that must be followed by all
persons now before anyone even attempts to fully study the Holy
Scripture. The first rule is pray and ask the Holy spirit to guide you, to
teach you.. not rather self, mere men or women.. we all should seek first and
not last the Holy Spirit for illumination. The Holy Spirit wants to share the
treasures of God’s Word with those who rightfully do esteem Him. The most
important principle to remember in studying God’s Word is that it can only be
understood with the help of the Holy Spirit. Those who approach the
Bible without the Holy Spirit to teach them, may gain some insight into
truths, their lives, but also will receive no definite, permanent,
important life-changing revelation. Bible Commentaries should be used
only very sparingly if at all. Even the most anointed man or woman,
preacher of God clearly still can be wrong, biased, have a hidden
agenda, limited, (or just shallow) in their understanding or interpretation of
certain Bible topics, subjects. Do not believe any man or women, rather solely
Take God’s word for it.“A scorner seeketh wisdom, and findeth it not: but
knowledge is easy unto him that understandeth” (Proverbs 14:6 )We know that
alcoholism is a terrible sin that now damages the person’s brain,
affects their ability to work, to drive a car, and negatively affects
their own behavior and affects many others too. The same reality is true of
one taking now bad drugs as well. So I was also similarly shocked, surprised
to discover the the falsely professing evangelical Christian Stephen Harper
our Prime Minister likes to consume wine, alcohol, and he buys it for others
as well. Beyond a Biblical doubt the Genuine Born Again Evangelicals are total
abstainers, like me, I never drink or touch wine or alcohol, at any time, nor
do I give playboy, pornography, wine or wine glasses to anyone. ““Dr. Daniel
Akin, President of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary has written an
article in favor of the famous Resolution #5 (Resolution calling for total
opposition to alcohol). Alcohol is the number one drug problem among
teenagers. (1 Cor. 8:13; 9:19-22; 10:32-33). Because I am an example to
others, I will make certain no one ever walks the road of sorrow called
alcoholism because they saw me take a drink and assumed, “if it is alright for
him it is alright for me.” No, I will choose to set an uncompromising example
of abstinence because I love them. I will seek my joy and filling in the
Spirit not in alcohol. I love the Phillips translation of Ephesians 5:18 which
reads, “Don’t get your stimulus from wine (for there is always the danger of
excessive drinking), but let the Spirit stimulate your souls.” Psalm 4:7-8
adds, “You [O Lord] have put more joy in my heart than they have when their
grain and wine abound. In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone,
O Lord, make me dwell in safety.” There is no record that Jesus drank
strong drink, As a pastor or church leader, would I demand abstinence
for leadership? Absolutely! The principle of Proverbs 31:4-5 is
appropriately applied here, “It is not for Kings, O Lemuel, it is not for
kings to drink wine, or for rulers to take strong drink, lest they drink and
forget what has been decreed and pervert the rights of all the afflicted.”
“
PM Stephen Harper the
pretender evangelical as well.. is not the first time he wrongfully gave
alcoholic beverages to others, and what next?
(1 Cor 11:28 KJV) But let a man examine himself,
and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup. 29 For he that
eateth and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh damnation to himself, not
discerning the Lord’s body. 30 For this cause many are weak and
sickly among you, and many sleep. 31 For if we would judge ourselves, we
should not be judged.
(Prov 3:33 KJV) The curse
of the LORD is in the house of the wicked: but he blesseth the habitation of
the just.
Jesus himself had said that professing to be a
Christian is not enough, and it applies now to a Prime Minister as well, one
rather can tell what a person is really like by what he does, a
True Christian is one who evidently is controlled by the Spirit of God and not
by self, sin, a real Christian is one where thus anyone can clearly see
by the evidence of the fruit of the Holy Spirit, including even self
control.
Matt 3:8 Bring forth fruit that is consistent with
repentance [let your lives prove your change of heart];
Gal 5:23 Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control
(self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [that can
bring a charge].
Matt 7:16 You will fully recognize them by their
fruits. Do people pick grapes from thorns, or figs from thistles?17 Even so,
every healthy (sound) tree bears good fruit [worthy of admiration], but the
sickly (decaying, worthless) tree bears bad (worthless) fruit. 18 A good
(healthy) tree cannot bear bad (worthless) fruit, nor can a bad (diseased)
tree bear excellent fruit [worthy of admiration]. 19 Every tree that
does not bear good fruit is cut down and cast into the fire. 20 Therefore, you
will fully know them by their fruits.
1 Tim 3:2 Now a bishop (superintendent, overseer) must
give no grounds for accusation {but} must be above reproach, the husband of
one wife, circumspect {and} temperate {and} self-controlled; [he must be]
sensible {and} well behaved {and} dignified and lead an orderly (disciplined)
life; [he must be] hospitable [showing love for and being a friend to the
believers, especially strangers or foreigners, and be] a capable {and}
qualified teacher,
Alcoholics, wine drinkers, smokers, drug users too
they all tend to have evidentially lost their self control..
I have often rightfully said to many preachers I would
rather see them first by example live the life of Christ instead of merely
preaching it others. Preaching the Gospel is not an valid alternative to
living it. I even do know People who profess to be Christians and they
are Alcoholics too.. but they are not Christians… They fool themselves only as
to who they still really are too.
By their own fruits Jesus said to us all you can tell
what they are really like still.
..(Prov 16:25 KJV) There is a way that seemeth
right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
(Mat 7:20 KJV) Wherefore by their fruits ye
shall know them. 21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall
enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father
which is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have
we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in
thy name done many wonderful works? 23 And then will I profess unto
them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. 24
Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will
liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: 25 And the
rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that
house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. 26 And every one
that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto
a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:
If you took 2 martinis or
2 beers a day you are an alcoholic. Alcoholism is a crime and not a disease,
it is a crime, it is just as lethal, bad, and it is really unacceptable as
selling or taking bad drugs too. Canada’s bad drug problem, drunk
driving, alcoholism is increasing not just amongst the teens, but also in the
work place, in the government now as well even amongst the civil and public
servants. Most major home violence, car or truck accidents are still
associated with alcohol now too and not speeding. It’s a fact that
drinking alcohol can seriously damage one’s health and cause permanent brain
damage as well .Alcohol may lead to liver problems, a variety of cancers as
well as forms of osteoporosis and depression, and studies are showing, too,
that women are more susceptible to the ill effects of alcohol than are
men.
Not one cent of taxpayer’s money should be
ever used in the governments, civil and public servants, expense
accounts to buy alcohol, wine or beer.
> I did not know
that smoking is a sin?
Impaired means when Mental awareness,
alertness and function do also come under a dulling, slowing effect. This
hinders our mental ability in everyday activity and restricts or cuts off our
mental fellowship with the Holy Spirit speaking to our mind from our spirit. A
person who has the smoking or drinking habit, in honesty, must label
themselves an “addict” too. in bondage to Satan and the flesh and the lust
thereof. Alcoholism, Smoking, lying, stealing, slander is demonic, which
is why it is so hard to stop on your own and they all are not compatible
with the Christian experience. These sinful problems are next
forcing negative consequences on other “innocent” people Co-workers,
family and even children are victims . Christians are definitely
thus not to be “stumbling blocks” to others. Matthew 18: 6, 7, “But who
so shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better
for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned
in the depths of the sea. Woe unto the world because of offenses! For it must
needs be that offenses come; but woe to that man by whom the offense
cometh!”
Also smoking
is “burning incense to other (demon) gods”. II Kings 22:17, II Kings 23:5; II
Chronicles 28:25, 34:24, 34:25; Jeremiah 1:16, 7:9, 11:12, 19:4; Chapter 44,
48:35.
To receive
complete freedom from these sinful bondages, the Believer must see his
“habit” or being “hooked” as a spiritually rooted problem and confess it as a
deliberate sin of Disobedience to God too. Acknowledging lust, Alcohol,
tobacco, cigarettes, drugs, lying, stealing, marijuana and smoking as
sin is prerequisite. Personal Confession of the sin according to (1 John 1:9
KJV) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our
sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say
that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.and we
all must choose to submit to God according to (James 4:7 KJV) Submit
yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye
sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 9 Be afflicted, and
mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to
heaviness. 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he
shall lift you up.
next , places the Believer on proper ground for the
unclean spirits to be cast out of them
and whether Smoking it is legal or not legal basically is
not the issue in the sight of God.. but when you clearly have lost self
control, it also alters your judgment and your ability to perceive
reality. on top of that you now are a prisoner to a bad habit of smoking , the
very clear source of the bad habit is the devil now as well and not God.. and
if you cannot see this it is either cause you do not want to or are in false
denial… Half of the world knows that smoking cigarettes even is bad for you,
it is a vice, and it causes cancer, linked to gum disease, destroys the
body and you did not realize it was sinful? either you are lying to me, lying
yourself others or you are being deliberate ignorant. Smoking is not without
potential real negative consequences and yes anyone would be an absolute fool
not to factor that truth now as well . One cannot honestly claim to be using
alcohol, smoking or marijuana for any purpose other than to falsely intoxicate
oneself. to lose self control. One is not getting you closer to God by being
intoxicated , but moving you away from Him. You’re doing the weed for
YOURSELF, serving the sinful sinful self, the flesh now in reality. You are to
die to self, the flesh and all of it’s lust thereof as a Christian now
still too. The ends do not justify now the mans still as well.
1 Corinthians
10:31 (King James Version) Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or
whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
1 Corinthians 3:16-17
(King James Version) 16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that
the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? 17 If any man defile the temple of God, him
shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.
Christians are always to
remain SOBER too. 1 Thessalonians 5:8 (King James Version) 8 But let us, who
are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and
for an helmet, the hope of salvation.
Sober, obedient and not given to lusts of the flesh. 1
Peter 1:13-14 (King James Version) 13 Wherefore gird up the loins of
your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought
unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; 14 As obedient children, not
fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance:
Ephesians 5:11-21 (King
James Version) 11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of
darkness, but rather reprove them 12 For it is a shame even to speak of
those things which are done of them in secret. 13 But all things that are
reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is
light. 14 Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the
dead, and Christ shall give thee light. 15 See then that ye walk
circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, 16 Redeeming the time, because the
days are evil. 17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will
of the Lord is. 18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be
filled with the Spirit 19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms
PM Stephen Harper needs to get better friends, needs
to repent himself too.
Truly any type of abuse is unacceptable and anywhere
too
and exposing it
loudly in public as well as calling the police is the best way to deal with it
for everyone's benefit, the abuser included.
God himself
clearly does not accept verbal, physical, or human rights abuses
(Mat 18:6 KJV)
But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were
better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were
drowned in the depth of the sea.
(Mat 18:7 KJV)
Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences
come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!
(Mat 18:8 KJV)
Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them
from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather
than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire.
No we ALL cannot
STOP, take the ostrich approach under the guise of love to the definite bad
acts of others, we as Christians are still called to be fruit inspectors of
those who profess to be Christians ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY RARELY QUOTE IT in
actual context OR LIVE THE BIBLE THEY CLAIM THEY BELIEVE IN-
(Gen 31:42 KJV)
Except the God of my father, the God of Abraham, and the fear of Isaac, had
been with me, surely thou hadst sent me away now empty. God hath seen mine
affliction and the labour of my hands, and rebuked thee
yesternight.
(Lev 19:17 KJV)
Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke
thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.
(Neh 5:7 KJV)
Then I consulted with myself, and I rebuked the nobles, and the rulers, and
said unto them, Ye exact usury, every one of his brother. And I set a great
assembly against them.
(Psa 119:21 KJV)
Thou hast rebuked the proud that are cursed, which do err from thy
commandments.
(Prov 24:25 KJV)
But to them that rebuke him shall be delight, and a good blessing shall come
upon them.
(Prov 27:5 KJV)
Open rebuke is better than secret love.
(Eccl 7:5 KJV)
It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise, than for a man to hear the song
of fools.
(Mat 17:18 KJV)
And Jesus rebuked the devil; and he departed out of him: and the child was
cured from that very hour.
(Mark 1:25 KJV)
And Jesus rebuked him, saying, Hold thy peace, and come out of him.
(Mark 4:39 KJV)
And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still.
And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
(Mark 8:33 KJV)
But when he had turned about and looked on his disciples, he rebuked Peter,
saying, Get thee behind me, Satan: for thou savourest not the things that be
of God, but the things that be of men.
(1 Tim 5:20 KJV)
Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
(2 Tim 4:2 KJV)
Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort
with all longsuffering and doctrine.
(Titus 1:13 KJV)
This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in
the faith;
(Titus 2:15 KJV)
These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man
despise thee.
(Heb 12:5 KJV)
And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto
children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when
thou art rebuked of him:
(Rev 3:19 KJV)
As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and
repent.
Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the
Bullies now
too.
Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the
Bullies now Even for Christians! verbal abuse by pastorS NOW
ESPECIALLY TOO.
"This is from the book by Patricia Evans http://andthenshecried.wordpress.com/2008/02/05/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond
Verbal abuse is a kind of battering which doesn’t leave
evidence like physical abuse does. However, it can be just as painful, and
recovery can take much longer. The victim of abuse lives in a gradually more
confusing realm. In public she is with one man, in private he becomes
another. Often, for the verbally abused woman (man), there is no witness
to her reality and no one to understand her experiences. Friends and family
continue to see her ex, the abuser, as a really good guy and, certainly, he
agrees with them. The verbal abuser, while maintaining his charm with others,
always takes his abuse behind closed doors. It is a means of holding power
over his wife( husband) /partner.. Many women and
some men leave a marriage and come back into the singles’ world with the
diminished self-esteem that comes from a verbally abusive
relationship. The fact that many of these women (men) have never
even realized that they were being abused, makes it easy for them to enter
another abusive relationship. A verbal abuser is an insecure person and
immature person who is looking for power and control over another.In order to
help you recognize abuse, remember that all forms of verbal abuse are methods
of manipulating you for the purpose of establishing power over you. The
following are some of the forms of verbal abuse the author helps you
recognize.
- Withholding:
a purposeful, silent treatment.
- Countering: a
countering of your ideas, feelings, and perceptions, even going so far as to
refute what he misconstrues you to have said.
- Discounting–a
putdown of you or something you hold dear.
- Blocking and
diverting–this is a sneaky, covert way of violating your dignity.
- Accusation
and blame: generally involves lies about the partner’s intentions,
attitudes, and motives. The author states that accusation and blame is
present in all verbally abusive relationships.
- Judging and
criticizing: lies about your personal qualities and performance.
- Trivializing
and undermining: abusive behavior which makes light of your work, your
efforts, your interests, or your concerns. The abuser attempts to dilute
meaning and value in your life. Undermining might occur when your partner
laughs at you, for example, when you burn yourself cooking. It is also jokes
at your expense. Undermining is occurring when you feel a “so-called joke”
is mean rather than funny.
- Name calling:
no one has a right to call you degrading names. Name calling is verbal
abuse.
- Ordering:
Telling you to do something, rather than asking, or making decisions for you
or for the two of you without your input.
- Forgetting
and denial: the trickiest form of denial is forgetting. Become aware that
forgetting is a form of denial that shifts all responsibility from the
abuser to some “weakness of mind.”
- Abusive
anger: this seems to be closely linked to the need to “blow up,” to
dominate, to control, to go one up, and to put down. Any time you are
snapped at or yelled at, you are being abused.
- Threatening:
Physical threats and sexual threats aside, verbal threats are an effort at
manipulation. For example, a threat to leave, stay out all night, or take
you home immediately is a manipulation for power. The threat of “pending
disaster” is designed to shatter the partner’s serenity as well as her
boundaries.
If you counter
the abuser or attempt to explain yourself, you will probably be met with
such statements as, “I don’t want to hear it, get
out of my face” or “Woman you don’t have the
brains“, “B” You
shouldn’t have said that to me“.
f you are in a
brand-new relationship and see warning signs of verbal abuse, the author
suggests you might be wise to let the relationship go. It is not likely that
a man (woman) who needs to dominate and control will change easily, if at
all. It is also likely that when the newness of the relationship wears
off, he will become more abusive. Verbal abuse can become physical in time
and physical abuse is always preceded by verbal abuse, according to Evans.If
you are in a long-term relationship, you can respond to the abuser as the
book suggests and soon discover for yourself whether or not your mate is
willing to change and stop his abusive behavior.
“If you have
been verbally abused in your relationship, you may have discovered that
explaining and trying to understand have not improved your relationship.
Therefore, I recommend that you respond in a new way–a way that will make an
emotional, psychological, and intellectual impact upon your
mate.”
The abuser in
your relationship may change when he finds that you do know when you are
being abused, that you have set limits, that you mean what you say, and that
you will not take behavior you don’t like.
If the man (
or sadly too often now a women) in your relationship remains abusive, it is
not only not your fault," but it is your responsibility to deal with
it, make it public, call the police too.
Any person
cannot still fight with you of you leave his or her presences, even
forever.. and there is still a good life after a failed marriage now too. I
practise what I preach and often now too.
SEE ALSO
http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/the-too-common-abusive-silent-treatment/
Hey if you read my many non
conforming posts you will note that I definitely, and loudly, rightfully
still do not conform to the false or immoral demands of others..
I was really now fortunate I had
great teachers here in Canada, in my public school, in high School and in
University in Montreal Quebec, and all of them now
had treated me as a real person, respected me, and allowed me to speak.
and to be heard as well.
Not one of them no one told me what I
can talk about write about or what I cannot as well. At work as a
Professional Engineer, or as a Professional Realtor with Re/Max I was
allowed continually as a responsible, a mature adult to make my own
decisions, and top also carry out my responsibilities in the
manner I chose to do them as well.
So I have to admit it came to me as a
shock firstly when I started to attend evangelical, Baptist Pentecostal
churches in Canada now as an adult that that same right to be respect,
top speak, and to be heard, not to be bullied, falsely oppressed. Legal and
Human rights that I had before, often now did not exist in the
churches surprisingly now of all places. Never saw so many control freaks,
human rights abusers in my whole life next to the too often bad cops
now too. And perversely many a despotic, crooked elder, pastor had
wrongfully tried to shut me up, and even next had resorted next to slander
me, to try to discredit me and what I had said, or whatever, now
even both in Quebec and in Alberta.
But like I have often said elsewhere
the Evangelical church was not the only place where they tried to deny me my
right to speak and to be heard now, for too often too and unacceptable the
Alberta bullies, rednecks now on the net had wrongfully tried often
and falsely to suppress my right of free speech, but next so did not too
many a Politician, particularly, ironically again both the professing
Christian ones, and the definitely alcoholic ones now too.. what they were
falsely deluded that only politicians had the right of free speech and the
right to be heard it seems too .
Next too many bad police officers as
well did not like me openly, publically complaining about the too often bad
cops, bad RCMP had encountered in Alberta, Quebec, and not just the too many
bad pastors, elders too, and in other provinces as well.. and what
these bad cops, bad watchdogs, forget they are here to
serve the good welfare of the citizens? for they are not our
despotic slave drivers.. nor are their bosses for that matter now
too.
Now what bothered them all now so
much that they had tried to shut me up? my transparency, honesty, or it
seems the mere exercise of case of my rights . For in reality it
seems at least 10 percent of the persons even on the net seem to be control
freaks, bullies, human rights abusers.
I often read complaints on the net
from some child complaining that that one of their parents is
verbally abusing them, or even a spouse complain that their spouse is
abusing them. I have heard people tell me how pastors had abused them
as well. Children and spouses sometimes are forced to put up with it?? But
not me, for I am not a child, rather a matured adult, a retired senior in
fact. And I can clearly, rightfully speak for myself and talk on any topic
now as I so desire as well as we all can readily see and I do so now too.
And for the good of us all now too.
Beware always of men and women, bullies,
tormentors, control freaks, persons, civil and public servants,
politicians, pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to
enslave you, oppress you, exploit you even while they claim they are
proclaiming the truth, democracy, trying to help you,
etc.,
Is 51:23
..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who said
to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made
your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass
over.
Here
also is what I know for sure, the older the person is the more extreme, more
severe, the more difficult the punishment has to be on them to cause
them to personally to change in their own negative ways, for they are
too set in them now too.