First I rightfully still do not endorse any Christians adds, anyone, any person, any organization, any Church  now trying to make any money from  the gospel, or begging, asking for money or even  any of the adds here.  I also do not endorse any of  Bibles, books, tapes listed here for sale too. Jesus said as we have freely received so we are freely to give. Hirelings in their greed and visible lack of faith don't do that. I do believe we should have the faith for God to supply what anyone needs  freely to anyone who needs it. 



About Living in God's Glory
 
(Gal 6:14 KJV)  But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world.
 
 “let your light shine . . . in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven”(Mt. 5:16).
 
(1 Cor 10:31 KJV)  Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
 
(1 Cor 10:32 KJV)  Give none offence, neither to the Jews, nor to the Gentiles, nor to the church of God:
 
(1 Cor 10:33 KJV)  Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved.  
 
 "Glory to God in the highest heaven"(Lk. 2:14)
 
(1 Cor 11:1 KJV)  Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
 
for “It is He who has made us, and not we ourselves”(Ps. 100:3). It is God alone who “gives to all life and breath and all things”(Acts 17:25). “Everyone who is called by My name, whom I have created for My glory”(Isa. 43:7).
 
(Isa 42:8 KJV)  I am the LORD: that is my name: and my glory will I not give to another, neither my praise to graven images.  "You shall have no other gods before Me"(Ex. 20:3).
 
(John 17:1 KJV)  These words spake Jesus, and lifted up his eyes to heaven, and said, Father, the hour is come; glorify thy Son, that thy Son also may glorify thee: 2  As thou hast given him power over all flesh, that he should give eternal life to as many as thou hast given him. 3  And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent. 4  I have glorified thee on the earth: I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do. 5  And now, O Father, glorify thou me with thine own self with the glory which I had with thee before the world was. 6  I have manifested thy name unto the men which thou gavest me out of the world: thine they were, and thou gavest them me; and they have kept thy word. 7  Now they have known that all things whatsoever thou hast given me are of thee. 8  For I have given unto them the words which thou gavest me; and they have received them, and have known surely that I came out from thee, and they have believed that thou didst send me. 9  I pray for them: I pray not for the world, but for them which thou hast given me; for they are thine. 10  And all mine are thine, and thine are mine; and I am glorified in them. 11  And now I am no more in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to thee. Holy Father, keep through thine own name those whom thou hast given me, that they may be one, as we are. 12  While I was with them in the world, I kept them in thy name: those that thou gavest me I have kept, and none of them is lost, but the son of perdition; that the scripture might be fulfilled. 13  And now come I to thee; and these things I speak in the world, that they might have my joy fulfilled in themselves. 14  I have given them thy word; and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. 15  I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil. 16  They are not of the world, even as I am not of the world. 17  Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth. 18  As thou hast sent me into the world, even so have I also sent them into the world. 19  And for their sakes I sanctify myself, that they also might be sanctified through the truth. 20  Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word; 21  That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. 22  And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: 23  I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me. 24  Father, I will that they also, whom thou hast given me, be with me where I am; that they may behold my glory, which thou hast given me: for thou lovedst me before the foundation of the world. 25  O righteous Father, the world hath not known thee: but I have known thee, and these have known that thou hast sent me. 26  And I have declared unto them thy name, and will declare it: that the love wherewith thou hast loved me may be in them, and I in them.
 
One cannot but help but notice today that the world says everything is right to do , including sexual impurities.. of gays, lesbians, adultery, fornication, sex outside of marriage. pornography/
 
(Heb 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
 
When Jesus prayed, prays that we would walk in his glory, the glory of the father as well, he refers to three things,  we need to so, including, that we all walk personally  in a holy manner worthy of his name, that we Christians do behave pure, kind, loving one towards another Christian now as well, not wrongfully or impurely too,  and that we be not any idol worshippers now, nor do we try to be false men pleasers, but God pleasers, for we are to seek to please God always over  any other mere men and women, and this is all well pleasing unto God, to his glory.
 
We on earth are always tempted to walk in a sinful manner, daily by Satan and others, and yet God says for us to walk pure, holy, even one towards another and sexually as well.... Both old testament and new testament references included the sexual behavior. God commands holy living and ais us to be holy as well.
 
(Lev 20:7 KJV)  Sanctify yourselves therefore, and be ye holy: for I am the LORD your God. 8  And ye shall keep my statutes, and do them: I am the LORD which sanctify you. 9  For every one that curseth his father or his mother shall be surely put to death: he hath cursed his father or his mother; his blood shall be upon him. 10  And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. 11  And the man that lieth with his father's wife hath uncovered his father's nakedness: both of them shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. 12  And if a man lie with his daughter in law, both of them shall surely be put to death: they have wrought confusion; their blood shall be upon them. 13  If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. 14  And if a man take a wife and her mother, it is wickedness: they shall be burnt with fire, both he and they; that there be no wickedness among you. 15  And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast. 16  And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. 17  And if a man shall take his sister, his father's daughter, or his mother's daughter, and see her nakedness, and she see his nakedness; it is a wicked thing; and they shall be cut off in the sight of their people: he hath uncovered his sister's nakedness; he shall bear his iniquity. 18  And if a man shall lie with a woman having her sickness, and shall uncover her nakedness; he hath discovered her fountain, and she hath uncovered the fountain of her blood: and both of them shall be cut off from among their people. 19  And thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister, nor of thy father's sister: for he uncovereth his near kin: they shall bear their iniquity. 20  And if a man shall lie with his uncle's wife, he hath uncovered his uncle's nakedness: they shall bear their sin; they shall die childless. 21  And if a man shall take his brother's wife, it is an unclean thing: he hath uncovered his brother's nakedness; they shall be childless. 22  Ye shall therefore keep all my statutes, and all my judgments, and do them: that the land, whither I bring you to dwell therein, spue you not out. 23  And ye shall not walk in the manners of the nation, which I cast out before you: for they committed all these things, and therefore I abhorred them.
 
(1 Pet 1:15 KJV)  But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;
 
(1 Pet 1:16 KJV)  Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.
(1 Th 4:1 KJV)  Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, so ye would abound more and more. 2  For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. 3  For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 4  That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 5  Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: 6  That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. 7  For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. 8  He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.  9  But as touching brotherly love ye need not that I write unto you: for ye yourselves are taught of God to love one another. 10  And indeed ye do it toward all the brethren which are in all Macedonia: but we beseech you, brethren, that ye increase more and more; 11  And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; 12  That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing.
(1 Th 2:3 KJV)  For our exhortation was not of deceit, nor of uncleanness, nor in guile:
 
(1 Th 2:4 KJV)  But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts.
 
(1 Th 2:5 KJV)  For neither at any time used we flattering words, as ye know, nor a cloak of covetousness; God is witness:
 
(1 Th 2:6 KJV)  Nor of men sought we glory, neither of you, nor yet of others, when we might have been burdensome, as the apostles of Christ.
 
(1 Th 2:10 KJV)  Ye are witnesses, and God also, how holily and justly and unblameably we behaved ourselves among you that believe:
 
(1 Th 2:11 KJV)  As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children,12  That ye would walk worthy of God, who hath called you unto his kingdom and glory.
 
If anyone was to browse the many prayer requests  posted on the Internet one can quickly see that prayers for a mate take a large part of the center stage as well as THEIR concern of having a good, well paid  job, and one's health. Anyone involved in counseling knows that marriage complaints take the center stage there as well. Why?
 
One way we personally do manifest God's glory is how we do firstly seek a Christian mate, a mate that God has chosen for us, and next by also how we do treat them
 
(Psa 145:9 KJV)  The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works. 10  All thy works shall praise thee, O LORD; and thy saints shall bless thee. 11  They shall speak of the glory of thy kingdom, and talk of thy power; 12  To make known to the sons of men his mighty acts, and the glorious majesty of his kingdom. 13  Thy kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, and thy dominion endureth throughout all generations. 14  The LORD upholdeth all that fall, and raiseth up all those that be bowed down. 15  The eyes of all wait upon thee; and thou givest them their meat in due season. 16  Thou openest thine hand, and satisfiest the desire of every living thing. 17  The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his works. 18  The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. 19  He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. 20  The LORD preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy. 21  My mouth shall speak the praise of the LORD: and let all flesh bless his holy name for ever and ever. 146:1  Praise ye the LORD. Praise the LORD, O my soul. 2  While I live will I praise the LORD: I will sing praises unto my God while I have any being. 3  Put not your trust in princes, nor in the son of man, in whom there is no help.
 
These verses apply to your marriage relationships now as well.
 
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. 2  But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. 3  And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. 4  The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away. 5  Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. 6  For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.  (Psalm1:1 KJV)
 
Many people still do fail to realize beforehand that the person that now they are selecting on their own possibly for their mate may have unresolved personal issues, sins that will next have serious an adverse effect not only on their marriage, relationship but even on others as well. We need God's wisdom to know what some people are now really like still too.
 
So what are PEOPLE  now really like?
 
Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. 21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.(Mat 7:20 KJV)   But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves..(James 1:22 KJV)
 
(Ezek 33:31 KJV)  And they come unto thee as the people cometh, and they sit before thee as my people, and they hear thy words, but they will not do them: for with their mouth they show much love, but their heart goeth after their covetousness.
 
(Mat 15:8 KJV)  This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. 9  But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
 
(Jer 8:5 KJV)  Why then is this people of Jerusalem slidden back by a perpetual backsliding? they hold fast deceit, they refuse to return.
 
(Jer 9:6 KJV)  Thine habitation is in the midst of deceit; through deceit they refuse to know me, saith the LORD.
 
(Jer 9:8 KJV)  Their tongue is as an arrow shot out; it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his wait.
 
(Mark 7:6 KJV)  He answered and said unto them, Well hath Esaias prophesied of you hypocrites, as it is written, This people honoureth me with their lips, but their heart is far from me. 7  Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. 8   For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
 
(Mat 10:17 KJV)  But beware of men: for they will deliver you up to the councils, and they will scourge you in their synagogues;
 
It is not enough to accept the word of even a professing Christian, as to them even now being real, born again Christians too, While Membership, entrance to Heaven is free.. all of the personal requirements still have to be fully met, made even by them. Sadly that is not always the actual case.
 
(Luke 3:8 KJV)  Bring forth therefore fruits worthy of repentance, and begin not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father: for I say unto you, That God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham. 9 And now also the ax is laid unto the root of the trees: every tree therefore which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
 
(Luke 17:32 KJV)  Remember Lot's wife. 33   Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.
 
(Mat 7:21 KJV)  Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. 22  Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23   And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.
 
(Psa 32:10 KJV)  Many sorrows shall be to the wicked: but he that trusteth in the LORD, mercy shall compass him about.
 
(2 Pet 2:4 KJV)  For if God spared not the angels that sinned, but cast them down to hell, and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved unto judgment;5  And spared not the old world, but saved Noah the eighth person, a preacher of righteousness, bringing in the flood upon the world of the ungodly; 6  And turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrha into ashes condemned them with an overthrow, making them an ensample unto those that after should live ungodly; 7  And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy conversation of the wicked: 8  (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds;) 9  The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:

Man is composed body, soul and sprit, and having a spouse, a person who only meets one's body needs is clearly not  enough, nor in fact is it enough next to have friendship only at the soulish level as well. Man has a spiritual vacuum that he seeks to be filled as well. Marriage is one way some people try to fill in the void they feel. Earthly Marriage it itself is never an adequate solution for all of your needs firstly  as well. We all need to daily be mindful of this truth now too. The truths mentioned here are important for us all, always too.
 
(1 Th 5:23 KJV)  And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
 
While the Apostle  Paul he himself had the gift of singleness IN MARRIAGE, and chose to remain single to do God’s work, he clearly acknowledged in his writings that not everyone was similarly gifted, but yet still Apostle Paul clearly said we all should be like him.. and what he  meant by that was that our marriage relationship should not at all come before our relationship with God, and our marriage relationship thus should not be at the expense of a relationship with God too.  We need to have a relationship continually with God even if we are married persons. Many people do not, do not even know how to achieve this too, even sadly professing Christian couples.
 
(Heb 13:5 KJV)  Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. 6  So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.
 
(1 Cor 7:32 KJV)  But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33  But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34  There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
 
(1 Cor 7:29 KJV)  But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30  And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31  And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
 
I was reviewing other people note's on Prayer, and God reminded me personally that prayer is not just a separate, simple something we do once every day, rather we are to continue our walk with God  all day, that is to continue praying all day, communicating with him, praying fervently as well. We cannot separate our prayer life also from our ongoing need of a continuing relationship with God now as well. Prayer is talking to God, continually now too, and it involves determining God's will in all areas of our life, and actively seeking  only  it next too.

Also  do Strive personally also to Exhibit the Character of Christ-- (Gal 6:10 KJV)  As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.  Do also Pray for an ability to love others, and a heart to be a helper to other believers even the way God designed you to be. The enemy is in the business of distorting the presence and the character of Christ in us, and we need to resist his efforts to do so. We need also  to move toward being Faithful and Loving and away from being Fearful and Loathing!  Unhealthy Fear and loathing of others, even the opposite sex sets in often as well after years of personal heartbreak and disappointing relationships, false expectations, laziness too. Ask God to help you again and to heal you, to give you a fresh, new heart and mind too.

(Eph 6:23 KJV)  Peace be to the brethren, and love with faith, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
 
(John 13:34 KJV)  A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 35   By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
 
(John 15:12 KJV)  This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.13  Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
 
(Rom 12:9 KJV)  Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. 10  Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
 
(Rom 12:10 KJV)  Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
 
(Rom 13:8 KJV)  Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.
 
(Rom 13:9 KJV)  For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.10  Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
 
(2 Cor 6:6 KJV)  By pureness, by knowledge, by long-suffering, by kindness, by the Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned
 

Learn How to Love others-- Study the Biblical definition of Love mentioned in 1Corinthians 13. Write it out, replace the word love with your name.
 
(1 Cor 13:1 KJV)  Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 4  Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5  Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6  Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8  Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 9  For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10  But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. 11  When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12  For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. 13  And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.  14:1  Follow after charity, and desire spiritual gifts, but rather that ye may prophesy.
 
I am amazed as to how many people want to lead, to teach others, to be pastors even wrongfully when yet they have not learned how to love others.
 
How can you better demonstrate Godly love in all of your relationships? Let also down the walls of selfishness, greed, envy,  self-protection and mistrust. You have been a part of it's built up, and only you and God can tear it down.
 
Avoid the errors of others- Many many people still do make the very tragic mistake, fatal mistake in that they build their whole life around their marriage, their  spouse, and their family , thier relatives and they have no room next for God and anyone else.. and this is really unacceptable to God firstly too.
 
 (Psa 90:17 KJV)  And let the beauty of the LORD our God be upon us: and establish thou the work of our hands upon us; yea, the work of our hands establish thou it.
 
(2 Cor 11:2 KJV)  For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.
 
(2 Cor 11:3 KJV)  But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.
 
(2 Cor 11:4 KJV)  For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we have not preached, or if ye receive another spirit, which ye have not received, or another gospel, which ye have not accepted, ye might well bear with him.
 
  (Gen 2:18 KJV)  And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
 
(Eccl 4:9 KJV)  Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.10  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.11  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? 12  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
 
I am amazed as to how many people will quote the above verses, still leaving God out of their picture..

Seeking Prayerfully God for a Godly Mate.. first principles

(1 Cor 7:39 KJV)  The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

Find Intercessors-- Ask your family and friends to pray for you and your future marriage. Remember the story of Isaac and Rebecca. The father and his servant were both praying and looking to God as they sought a bride for Isaac.

The Bible firstly clearly says that a Christian believer can only marry another believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, for we can have no significant relationship with the unbelievers..

(Psa 39:11 KJV)  When thou with rebukes dost correct man for iniquity, thou makest his beauty to consume away like a moth: surely every man is vanity. Selah.

(Psa 49:14 KJV)  Like sheep they are laid in the grave; death shall feed on them; and the upright shall have dominion over them in the morning; and their beauty shall consume in the grave from their dwelling.

This prayer process for a godlymate can consists of four steps:

1) Seek to know God for who He really is, a personal God who cares to be involved in  each area of your life on earth now too.

2) Seek to obey Him in your day to day life, you determine his will by medidating daily in his word.

3) Seek also to understand and appreciate all men and women for whom God made them to be ( and do  see the differences between women and men), and finally,

4) Seek to embrace also a proper man's and a proper woman’s biblical role and responsibility in a marriage relationship. (By this I mean, respect a man’s role to lead and head a family and accept a woman’s role to follow that leadership and help that man in every aspect of his life.)

Ask for Wisdom and Discernment-- Learn to walk by faith and not by sight when it comes to finding a mate. Study how to hear the voice of God, how he leads us in decision making. We look at the exterior of a man, God looks at the heart. Start looking at the heart of a man or a women , not at their false  external features. The spirutal character of a man or a women is his true value.

(Prov 6:25 KJV)  Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.

(Prov 20:29 KJV)  The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the grey head.

(Prov 31:30 KJV)  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

(Prov 28:21 KJV)  To have respect of persons is not good: for for a piece of bread that man will transgress.

(Isa 3:24 KJV)  And it shall come to pass, that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink; and instead of a girdle a rent; and instead of well set hair baldness; and instead of a stomacher a girding of sackcloth; and burning instead of beauty.

(Isa 13:19 KJV)  And Babylon, the glory of kingdoms, the beauty of the Chaldees' excellency, shall be as when God overthrew Sodom and Gomorrah.
 
(Isa 28:1 KJV)  Woe to the crown of pride, to the drunkards of Ephraim, whose glorious beauty is a fading flower, which are on the head of the fat valleys of them that are overcome with wine!
 
(Isa 28:4 KJV)  And the glorious beauty, which is on the head of the fat valley, shall be a fading flower, and as the hasty fruit before the summer; which when he that looketh upon it seeth, while it is yet in his hand he eateth it up.
 
(Ezek 16:15 KJV)  But thou didst trust in thine own beauty, and playedst the harlot because of thy renown, and pouredst out thy fornications on every one that passed by; his it was.
 
(Ezek 16:25 KJV)  Thou hast built thy high place at every head of the way, and hast made thy beauty to be abhorred, and hast opened thy feet to every one that passed by, and multiplied thy whoredoms.
 
(Ezek 28:17 KJV)  Thine heart was lifted up because of thy beauty, thou hast corrupted thy wisdom by reason of thy brightness: I will cast thee to the ground, I will lay thee before kings, that they may behold thee.

Seek also Partners in Prayer-- Pray with a like-minded Christian for your relationships, with God and others,  and your future spouse.  When two or more are gathered together, He is in their midst and hears and answers their prayers! Ask God to deliver you from the Evil One. Ask Him to remove bondages, hindrances, curses, and generational sins.

Become a Member of a Prayer Team-- Surround yourself with uplifting, positive, "permission giving" influences. Join a small group that studies the Word and Prays together. The Word says, "Confess your sins to one another, that you may be healed." Some healing requires confession before a group. Other healing will come only through fasting and prayer. Some of my most important breakthroughs came after a day of fasting.

Begin the Discipline of Scripture Reading-- Seek to know God, to understand his character and His ways. Pray for Him to give you wisdom, discernment. Pray for God to illumine your path. He will do this as you read scripture. Put together an aggressive schedule of daily Bible reading. Before you read, pray and ask God to handle the issues and conflicts that you would normally seek human counsel for. I read asking God to show me who He was, how to love, how to forgive, how to heal, etc. The One True God is the only one who knows you intimately, even better than you know yourself. Seek His counsel rather than the counsel of man.

Start a Daily Diary-- Journal your thought process. Writing is healing. I wrote Letters to God, which helped me pour out the frustration, grief and joys along my path. First thing in the morning is a good time to do this.

Set Aside Private Time for Prayer and Seeking God-- and Seeking God-- Pray on your knees daily, both morning and night. Humble yourself before the Lord. Seek his will for your relationship life and your future husband. Bathe every current relationship in prayer. Ask God to reveal whether or not this person is the one He has chosen for you. Expect to hear from God! Pray through all painful, past relationships. Turn them over to God, repent of any sin, and ask for inner healing of all those wounds.

Count on God In Spite of Your Circumstances-- Faith is believing in something we can’t yet see. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. He is our Provider of all our basic needs and desires. Certainly marriage is one of the basics. Study Genesis account of the first marriage and what God says about it not being good for the man to be alone, and the need for a man to have a helper.

Prepare Yourself for Marriage-- Happily married people know something single people don’t know. They have learned how to get married and stay married. Be a good student. Study marriage and courtship books and biographies of happily married Christians. I found many good books in church libraries. Let God change your mind about men, marriage. Study Proverbs and Psalms—Psalms is the most healing book of the Bible, Proverbs teaches the most about wisdom.

Become a Master of Forgiveness-- Forgive all those who have hurt you along life’s path. Forgiveness is the key to learning how to love. Christ’s love for mankind was principally expressed through his mercy and forgiveness. As we extend the same to our family and friends, God is equipping us to be a Godly wife. We will be able to love our husbands in the same way Christ loves us.

(Heb 13:4 KJV)  Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Beaware- Satan hates marriage, and comes against it with his full arsenal. But God is more powerful and you have the authority to stop Satan’s mission against your marriage. The Authority of the Believer!

Ask God to Bring You a Good Spouse-- Above all, ask God to arrange the marriage for you! We need not shy away from asking for our needs to be met by a Father who loves us! Pray for your future spouse and their  family every day.

1Corinthians 7:2—Because of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.

 Ephesians 5:22-33—Wives be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of his own body. for this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and his church. Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.

1Timothy 4:1-5—But the Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will fall away from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons, by means of the hypocrisy of liars seared in their own conscience as with a branding iron, men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from foods, which God has created to be gratefully shared in by those who believe and know the truth. For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected, if it is received with gratitude; for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer.

1 Timothy 5:14—Therefore, I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for reproach; for some have already turned aside to follow Satan.

Hebrews 13:4—Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Qualities  & Character in a mate By Solomon

Honest and Fair in His Dealings

A false balance is an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is his delight. Proverbs 11:1

A Companion of Wise Men
He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. Prov. 13:20

A Good Decision Maker
The naive believes everything, but the prudent man considers his steps. A wise man is cautious and turns from evil, but a fool is arrogant and careless. Prov. 14:15-16

Not Argumentative
Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting and strife. Prov 17:1

A Responsible Worker
He also who is slack in his work is brother to him who destroys. Prov. 18:9

Honest
A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who tells lies will perish. Prov. 19:9

Slow to Anger
A man's discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression. Prov. 19:11

Charitable to the Poor
He who is gracious to a poor man lends to the Lord, and He will repay him for his good deed. Prov. 19:17

Kind and Truthful
What is desirable in a man is his kindness, and it is better to be a poor man than a liar. Prov. 19:22

Temperate and Sober
Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler, and whoever is intoxicated by it is not wise. Prov 20:1

Known for His Good Deeds
It is by his deeds that a lad distinguishes himself--if his conduct is pure and right. Prov. 20:11

Respectful of Authority/Honoring to Parents
He who curses his father or his mother, his lamp will go out in time of darkness. Prov. 20:20

Loyal, Faithful and Righteous
Loyalty and truth preserve the king, and he upholds his throne by righteousness. Prov. 20:28

In Control of His Tongue
He who guards his mouth and his tongue, guards his soul from troubles. -Prov 21:23

Respected by Others
A good name is to be more desired than great riches. Prov. 22:1

(1 Tim 3:2 KJV)  A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach

Qualities  & Character in a female mate

(Prov 18:22 KJV)  Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

(Prov 31:10 KJV)  Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 13  She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 14  She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. 15  She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. 16  She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. 17  She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.  18  She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. 19  She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. 20  She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. 21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22  She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. 23  Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. 24  She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 25  Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 26  She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 27  She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.30  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. 31  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

portions taken from
http://www.shalomindia.com/marriage.php

 Many people are praying to fall in love, and they do not even know what the word means, in fact I am often surpassed when they do now call some of the romantic movies, movies about sex as comedies, for that seems to rightfully describe their wrong  versions of pathetic love.

Let us review the meaning of ' Love
 
1:   The word “love” in English has so many different definitions supposedly including
  • Romance
  • Eros
  • Storge
  • Philia
  • Self-love
  • Desire
  • Agape
  • Narcissism
  • Sex
  • Gay
The word “love” in English has so many various definitions as we all tend to know , for instance: I love my dog, my wife, cherry pie, my children, my sister, myself etc. 
 
But in the Greek there are three basic, main words for love.  Eros, Philia, Agape

Eros

One Greek word for love is “Eros”, from which we get the word erotic.  It has self-centered interests with its main focus being on physically receiving.  'Eros', means physical, sensual, romantic  affections and can be described as desires or erotic love. Many people wrongfully confuse this as being a love from God.. and they sadly do not tend to know any other levels of love.. such as  Philia  or next even Agape..

Eros is the false type of love that is most emphasized  in our society today- a sensual mostly love that is based on receiving- a passionate love depicted on TV and novels, or manifested by Gays.  One person once commented: “My friends do not fall in love; they mostly fall into lust.” 

A lot, lot of persons also today do LIVE BY THEIR FEELINGS, not by the word of God, they are mostly  led by and live by their own demonic lusts, the Eros love.. that is what a lot of these feelings still are.. even the feelings of high, excitements, desires.. they are not living in God's love or on His will for them.. This is not just the gays now, the adulterers, pornographers, but even most of ordinary supposedly good persons too who do this now, next too.

(John 8:44 KJV)  Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
 
(2 Pet 2:10 KJV)  But chiefly them that walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness,
 
(1 John 2:16 KJV)  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
 
(1 John 2:17 KJV)  And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

We need to walk by faith, walking in faith means always applying God's word personally.. then we will walk in the love and in the Spirit of God.. not in the lust of the flesh.

(Gal 5:16 KJV)  This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

In the  New Testament Greek there are only two  main words for love.    Philia  Agape

The New Testament is void of the word “Eros”;  it is only found in the New Testament classical Greek.

Phileo

Another Greek word for love is “phileo”; it represents mutual  tender affection- the sharing, warm fuzzies.   It's love now  focus on both giving and receiving. 

 The word 'Philia means affection (as in Philadelphia which means brotherly affection or brotherly love (delphos = brother)).  

 Phileo is an emotional, brotherly  love, a  love which would best be illustrated in the Bible as that between David and Jonathan. 

The relationship between Lazarus and Jesus depicts this type of love as well:

Jn.11:3  So the sisters sent word to Jesus, "Lord, the one you love is sick."

Again when Jesus sees Mary crying, we read:

Jn.11:35-36  Jesus wept.  Then the Jews said, "See how he loved him!"

Then there was also the close disciple whom Jesus loved:

Jn.20:2  So she came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved, and said, "They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we don’t know where they have put him

It is on the basis of Phileo that we are commanded to a brotherly kiss out of fraternal affection

Ro  16:16   Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ send greetings However when Judas greets Jesus to betray him, the Greek word is not the word for kiss, but the word phileo- the word for love:

Mk.14:44  Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: "The one I kiss (phileo) is the man; arrest him and lead him away under guard."

It is important that the command to love is never phileo, because it is an emotional love that comes out of a mutual reciprocal relationship but rather Agape 

However, it must be pointed out that for a Christian to phileo love someone definitely also always includes the agape love as well. 

God the Father Agape loved his Son:

Jn.3:35  The Father loves the Son and has placed everything in his hands. But God also phileo loved Jesus because of their relationship:

Jn.5:20  For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. Yes, to your amazement he will show him even greater things than these.

God agape loves his church

Jn.14:21  He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him."

But God also loves us because of the relationship we have with his Son:

Jn.16:27  No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God. The relational phileo love for Christ is in the context of relationship, else the Bible says we will be cursed.

1Co.16:22  If anyone does not love the Lord— a curse be on him. Come, O Lord!

However if we are in a relationship with the God, he will rebuke and discipline us as the need arises:

Re.3:19  Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.

Therefore phileo love comes from a relationship which shares common interests- both giving and receiving.

Agape

Finally there is the Greek word for love: “agape” which represents an attitude of love that is non selfish. It has a self-less interest with its focus on primary giving to others.  Agape can be described as unconditional positive regard, a personal state of mind that spurs us into helpful, needful action in personal simplicity, humility, compassion and equanimity. Agape is the higher form, manifestation  of God's true love for all of us  which we all still do need to personally have, promote, cultivate by letting God have full control of our lives.

The Greek word agape is mostly  foreign to classical Greek because it’s origin is from God: 

1Jn.4:7        …for love comes from God.

The first disciples of Jesus Christ were incapable of agape love until after Pentecost, for agape love comes from the Holy Spirit alone:

Ro.5:5  And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

The fact that the disciples were void of agape love prior to Pentecost  becomes clear in John 21 where Jesus uses the word agape:

Jn.21:15  When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me more than these?" "Yes, Lord," he said, "you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my lambs."

Peter’s response was “I phileo love you.”  Did Peter not understand the question?  Jesus repeats himself:

Jn.21:16  Again Jesus said, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me?" He answered, "Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Take care of my sheep."

Again Jesus uses the word “agape”, yet Peter again responds with phileo, love based on a relationship.  Jesus in his third attempt asks, “Peter do you phileo love me?”

Jn.21:17  The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep.

Peter could not experience agape love in and of himself, its origin is of God:

1Jo 4:8  for God is love.

Agape is an outward manifestation of an inward change

1Co 16:14  Do everything in love.

Agape love is a love that is based on the one doing the loving and not on the one receiving the love being lovely or worthy of that love:

Ro 5:8  But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

The love of God could not be understood by man until Christ died on the cross:

1Jn.3:16  This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

Agape love is the highest love as it is selfless, this differentiates it from all human forms of love:

Jn.15:13  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

Agape love is not based on feelings, therefore it can be commanded:

Jn.15:12  "This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.

Agape love is not based on relationship, we are now called to love more then our neighbor, our enemy:

Lk.6:27-28   But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

There is much confusion these days on what love is.  Phileo always tries to please the one that is being loved.  Agape always does what is best on behalf of the person even though it might not be perceived as love at that time:

Ro.8:28  And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Is everything good that God allows in our life, “no”; but because of his love for us, it will be for our good. 

He.12 :5-6    "My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,  because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son."

In the same way, if we agape love someone, we might have to tell them how God perceives their actions.  Some people say the things others want to hear, instead we need to say those things they need to hear:

Eph 4:15   Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ

Therefore let us enjoy the phileo love we have for each other as we do life together, but let us also love with the same love that God has always willing to reach out to those who do not know the love of God.

There are many kinds of love, but the greatest of these is agape love.

 (James 1:17 KJV)  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

...and when we love one another with agape love, even ours spouses, we do love God also.

(Psa 33:22 KJV)  Let thy mercy, O LORD, be upon us, according as we hope in thee.
 
(Psa 51:1 KJV)  To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David, when Nathan the prophet came unto him, after he had gone in to Bathsheba. Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions.
 
(Psa 62:12 KJV)  Also unto thee, O Lord, belongeth mercy: for thou renderest to every man according to his work.
 
(Psa 69:16 KJV)  Hear me, O LORD; for thy lovingkindness is good: turn unto me according to the multitude of thy tender mercies.
 
(Psa 119:124 KJV)  Deal with thy servant according unto thy mercy, and teach me thy statutes.
 
(Psa 119:149 KJV)  Hear my voice according unto thy lovingkindness: O LORD, quicken me according to thy judgment.
 
(Psa 119:154 KJV)  Plead my cause, and deliver me: quicken me according to thy word.
 
(Psa 119:156 KJV)  Great are thy tender mercies, O LORD: quicken me according to thy judgments.
 
(Psa 150:2 KJV)  Praise him for his mighty acts: praise him according to his excellent greatness.  

(John 13:15 KJV)  For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.
 
(1 Tim 4:12 KJV)  Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
 
(Heb 4:11 KJV)  Let us labour therefore to enter into that rest, lest any man fall after the same example of unbelief.
 
(James 5:10 KJV)  Take, my brethren, the prophets, who have spoken in the name of the Lord, for an example of suffering affliction, and of patience.
 
(1 Pet 2:21 KJV)  For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:
 
(Eccl 3:11 KJV)  He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
 
(Jude 1:7 KJV)  Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
 
(Mat 6:24 KJV)  No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
 
(Mark 3:27 KJV)  No man can enter into a strong man's house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.
 
(John 6:44 KJV)  No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
 
(John 6:65 KJV)  And he said, Therefore said I unto you, that no man can come unto me, except it were given unto him of my Father.
 
(1 Cor 12:3 KJV)  Wherefore I give you to understand, that no man speaking by the Spirit of God calleth Jesus accursed: and that no man can say that Jesus is the Lord, but by the Holy Ghost.
 
(Rev 3:8 KJV)  I know thy works: behold, I have set before thee an open door, and no man can shut it: for thou hast a little strength, and hast kept my word, and hast not denied my name.
 
Over the many years of my Christian life God has had to often return me to simple, basic, Christian truths.. truths I often repeat to you as well now.. even about false prayers, false teacher, false Pastors.  God has personally had told me there is a demonic, human , religious way to serve worship, to wrongfully follow after God as opposed to  the right, honest, good way too. One's attitude towards money will  be also an indication of one's relationship with God in reality.. you cannot serve God and  money.. for there is no such thing as a little bit pregnant too.. you tell who they are by all of their fruits.. the good and the bad fruits.. one cannot prostitute oneself even in the ministry.. it is still inappropriate for any pastors to take large salaries as well as for them to live high on the hog, or in expensive earthly mansions, or to beg, to ask for more money too.  Serving God is not always the same as having a real relationship with him now as well. One still also  needs to live the gospel personally not just preach it to others. So do Beware of men.
 
Nevertheless while God is patient he will not at all acquit the unrepentant guilty persons still
 
(Nahum 1:3 KJV)  The LORD is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the wicked: the LORD hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet.4  He rebuketh the sea, and maketh it dry, and drieth up all the rivers: Bashan languisheth, and Carmel, and the flower of Lebanon languisheth.



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